for example menopause vaginal atrophy is the perfect example because there are so many ways that

you can have connection if that's what you're looking for or pleasure and sensuality and help

your arousal without having painful intercourse at that time and there are plenty of ways that

you can also help that but if you are continuing to have sex which is uncomfortable for you and

painful for you the thing that it's going to do is create negative feelings towards the partner

you're having sex with but also is going to have a negative effect on desire because you're not

going to want to be having something which is painful you're not going to be motivated to have

something which is painful. Kate Moyle is an accredited psychosexual and relationship

therapist and a certified psychosexologist she is determined to make sure that we are having

fulfilling sex in our relationships throughout our lives. This is the Lizelle Wellbeing Show,

the podcast helping us all have a better second half. I'm Lizelle and as you probably know by

now I am on a real mission to find ways for all of us to thrive in later life by investing in our

and our wellbeing today. Well our bodies our brains our hormones and our expectations change

as we age and we talk a lot about that on this show but today I want us to think about how those

changes might affect our relationships and the sex that we're having. Well I have to confess

this is an especially timely one for me personally as I navigate menopause midlife and well yeah

getting back out on the dating scene again after my divorce and a few years of well frankly

relationship wilderness and you know navigating our way through all of this can be pretty scary.

It's a scary and intimidating time no matter what our personal situation so I am hoping to pick

up some good guidance for myself here as well as for you too. Well as a psychosexual and relationship

therapist Kate works with people to recognise their own personal understanding of their sexuality

and their sexual health. You might have watched her on the BBC series Sex on the couch

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