The Science of Making and Keeping Friends as an Adult with Marisa Franco • 249
Mind Love™ • Consciousness, Spirituality, and Science for Awakening
Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach
4.9 • 906 Ratings
🗓️ 27 September 2022
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
We will learn:
- The biggest mindset shift you can take on when meeting new people.
- How to deal with conflict in friendships, and how to decide which ones are worth the effort.
- How to optimize your socializing efforts and keep the friends you meet.
Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? Or at least make really good friends.
It can seem daunting and a little scary if you haven’t done it before, but the good news: there are specific, research-based ways to improve the number and quality of your connections using the insights of attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship.
So today we’re going to talk about a clear and actionable blueprint for forging strong, lasting connections with others—and for becoming our happiest, most fulfilled selves in the process.
Our guest is Marisa Franco. She is a psychologist, a national speaker, a professor at The University of Maryland, and the author of “Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends”.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Mind Love, episode 249. |
| 0:03.5 | Today's episode is all about the science of making and keeping friends as an adult. |
| 0:08.5 | A lot of our social realities are based on our biases, interpretations, baggage, more so than how other people |
| 0:17.6 | actually feel and think about us. We think self-esteem is a gauge of how we feel |
| 0:20.8 | about ourselves, but researchers have argued there's this theory called the |
| 0:24.6 | sociometric theory that in fact our self-esteem is how we think others view us. |
| 0:31.2 | It's like our gauge for how much we're belonging. And if we think everybody hates us, it's very hard to have high self-esteem, which is why I think the, you know, assuming people like you is very very valuable. |
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