The Science Of Crying: Evolutionary Roots, Benefits, And Why So Many Of Us Are Uncomfortable With It | Benjamin Perry (Co-hosted By Dr. Bianca Harris)
10% Happier with Dan Harris
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4.6 • 12.9K Ratings
🗓️ 17 July 2024
⏱️ 78 minutes
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Reverend Benjamin Perry, is the author of Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter. He's the editorial director at Garrett Seminary, Consulting Minister for Public Theology at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith photojournalism series. He has a masters in divinity from Union Theological Seminary.
In this episode we talk about:
- Why Doty got interested in this subject, and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through
- The gender differences on this issue
- How vulnerability can be misused or weaponized
- The issue of interpersonal relationships when it comes to tears (Bianca and Dan delve into this in regards to their relationship)
- How we replay childhood patterns in grownup relationships
- The deep connection between crying and shame
- The messages we share with our children about crying
- How we can reconnect to the emotional parts of ourselves
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| 0:00.0 | Wundry Plus subscribers can listen to 10% happier early and ad free right now. |
| 0:05.0 | Join Wundry Plus in the Wundry app or on Apple Podcasts. |
| 0:08.0 | This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody how we doing. How we doing? Question for you do you cry or are you like me not a crier? |
| 0:34.7 | And if not, why not? What's that about? |
| 0:37.6 | Today we're going to talk about the science of tears, the evolutionary roots, |
| 0:42.3 | the benefits, and why so many of us are so uncomfortable |
| 0:46.8 | with crying. |
| 0:48.4 | This is a loaded issue for me personally, both as an individual and as a husband which is why I am conducting this |
| 0:54.6 | interview jointly with my wife Dr Bianca Harris. Our guest is Reverend |
| 0:59.6 | Benjamin Perry author of Cry, Why Our Tears Matter. |
| 1:03.1 | He's the editorial director at Garrett Seminary, |
| 1:06.4 | consulting minister for public theology, |
| 1:08.6 | at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith |
| 1:11.9 | Photo Journalism Series. |
| 1:13.3 | He has a Masters in Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in New York City. |
| 1:18.0 | We talk about why he got interested in this subject and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through in the process. |
| 1:25.0 | The gender differences on this issue, the connection between crying and shame, |
| 1:29.5 | how tears can be misused or weaponized and much more. We'll get started with Benjamin Perry right after |
| 1:37.5 | this. But first some BSP, as you've heard me say before, the hardest part of personal growth, self-improvement, |
| 1:45.2 | spiritual development, whatever you want to call it. |
| 1:47.2 | The hardest part is forgetting. |
| 1:50.2 | You listen to a great podcast, you read a great book, you go to a great talk, whatever it is, and the message is electrifying. |
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