The Science Of Crying: Evolutionary Roots, Benefits, And Why So Many Of Us Are Uncomfortable With It | Benjamin Perry (Co-hosted By Dr. Bianca Harris)

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🗓️ 17 July 2024

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

Reverend Benjamin Perry, is the author of Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter. He’s the editorial director at Garrett Seminary, Consulting Minister for Public Theology at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith photojournalism series. He has a masters in divinity from Union Theological Seminary.

In this episode we talk about:

Why Doty got interested in this subject, and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through
The gender differences on this issue
How vulnerability can be misused or weaponized
The issue of interpersonal relationships when it comes to tears (Bianca and Dan delve into this in regards to their relationship)
How we replay childhood patterns in grownup relationships
The deep connection between crying and shame
The messages we share with our children about crying
How we can reconnect to the emotional parts of ourselves

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0:00.0	Wundry Plus subscribers can listen to 10% happier early and ad free right now.
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0:08.0	This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody how we doing. How we doing? Question for you do you cry or are you like me not a crier?
0:34.7	And if not, why not? What's that about?
0:37.6	Today we're going to talk about the science of tears, the evolutionary roots,
0:42.3	the benefits, and why so many of us are so uncomfortable
0:46.8	with crying.
0:48.4	This is a loaded issue for me personally, both as an individual and as a husband which is why I am conducting this
0:54.6	interview jointly with my wife Dr Bianca Harris. Our guest is Reverend
0:59.6	Benjamin Perry author of Cry, Why Our Tears Matter.
1:03.1	He's the editorial director at Garrett Seminary,
1:06.4	consulting minister for public theology,
1:08.6	at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith
1:11.9	Photo Journalism Series.
1:13.3	He has a Masters in Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in New York City.
1:18.0	We talk about why he got interested in this subject and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through in the process.
1:25.0	The gender differences on this issue, the connection between crying and shame,
1:29.5	how tears can be misused or weaponized and much more. We'll get started with Benjamin Perry right after
1:37.5	this. But first some BSP, as you've heard me say before, the hardest part of personal growth, self-improvement,
1:45.2	spiritual development, whatever you want to call it.
1:47.2	The hardest part is forgetting.
1:50.2	You listen to a great podcast, you read a great book, you go to a great talk, whatever it is, and the message is electrifying.
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