The Rules Are, There Are No Rules
Marriage and Martinis
Adam Silverstein
4.8 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 6 February 2023
⏱️ 65 minutes
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Summary
Danielle and Adam reflect on their household rules growing up (or lack thereof) and how these (non) rules impacted them in becoming the people they are today. They discuss how their "rules" around religion have changed, which societal rules we need to get rid of, and what the rules of their household are now that they're supposedly in charge. What's the only movie Danielle's mom ever made them walk out of and why? What were the rules living in the dorm at Adam's boarding school? What would their kids say are non-negotiable rules in their family?
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everybody, welcome to America Martini's, I'm Adam, here's Danielle, Hi! |
| 0:30.0 | I was, hmm, okay, rules, right? So that's what we're talking about here. I was a little, |
| 0:36.8 | we're very, uh, what's the word? I'm trying to, yeah, like, I didn't have too much |
| 0:44.8 | unfortunately because we could be better about the rules, right? Were you thinking at the whole |
| 0:50.4 | time that you were going through this? Because I was, and I'm like, what were the rules? Like, |
| 0:55.5 | what are the rules? I can think of a few, but nothing that's like, we have these set rules for |
| 1:01.0 | this household, and this is the way it, like, I think we have a lot of implied rules, more generally |
| 1:07.5 | about life and, and your place in the world and, you know, how you interact with those around you, |
| 1:16.7 | and I think our rules are more broad, we are definitely not as good with the short-term rules. |
| 1:25.1 | Yeah, there's no, like, we don't have that, like, you know, when you come home, the shoes go here, |
| 1:31.9 | and like, we have them, but we don't enforce them, right? So we have those rules, but they don't |
| 1:36.8 | exist. Like, those aren't our kinds of rules. Maybe they should be, and I'd kind of hope that |
| 1:43.6 | they would be, or hope they would be. With a different wife, they would have been. |
| 1:48.8 | No, I don't want a different wife. Okay, but they would have been with a different wife. |
| 1:53.2 | No, but, no, but you, I think you make these rules more than me, but they just don't |
| 1:59.9 | happen. You know, I can make the rules. I can't enforce them. Right. I don't have the energy. |
| 2:06.6 | I mean, you have the rules of, this is where the shoes go, and then that's it. That's the |
| 2:14.0 | rule. But I have friends and family members who are very good at enforcing those rules. And like, |
| 2:22.1 | their kids know, they come home, their shoes go in the closet, or wherever, the mudroom, |
| 2:27.9 | and they, you know, go, and they sit down at the table, and they get their homework done before |
| 2:32.2 | they do anything else, and they have a healthy snack. And I'm just like, please, it sounds wonderful. |
| 2:39.6 | Yeah, I mean, but on the other side of things, we have our implied rules and taught rules, |
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