The Root of Anger & Frustration: 8 Questions to Ask #504

Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

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🗓️ 30 July 2025

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

Do you have a child who lashes out at you or siblings, who seems angry or frustrated? You can’t “consequence” that pain or frustration out of a kid. Is it coming from trauma, anger at a parent, lack of friendships, recent changes, or even gut issues? Kirk gives you deeper insight into what may be causing your child to yell, hit, or shut down so you can get to the root of it. Our Christmas in July Sale is live NOW! Visit https://celebratecalm.com/july-sale/ to take advantage of the lowest prices of the year. Email [email protected] with any questions.

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1:01.1	So do you have a child who gets frustrated, who gets angry, and they can lash out physically, verbally.
1:07.9	They may lash out at you or at their siblings. Some of these kids may shut down. Some kids may act out at you or if their siblings some of these kids may shut down some kids may
1:13.2	act out at school and this is very very common with our kids so in today's episode of the calm parenting
1:19.4	podcast i want to give you some tools some questions to ask to dig underneath the surface
1:24.9	so we can get to the root of it. That is what we're going to discuss
1:29.5	on today's episode of the Calm Parenting podcast. So welcome. This is Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm.
1:33.5	You can find us and our Christmas in July sale at Celebrate Calm.com. So one of the most common
1:41.2	questions we get is, hey, my child is struggling with X and there's anger,
1:46.6	there's frustration under there.
1:48.6	And usually parents ask, hey, what consequence can we give for this?
1:53.8	And as you're going to see throughout this podcast episode, you can't consequence a kid into getting rid of their anger and frustration.
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