The Relationship Check-In
Marriage and Martinis
Adam Silverstein
4.8 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 15 May 2023
⏱️ 72 minutes
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Summary
So many couples go years without ever truly "checking in" with one another to discuss how things are going between them and which aspects of their relationship they need to focus on and improve, as well as which aspects of their relationship are going well. Danielle and Adam sit down to do a "relationship check-in" in real time. After looking for a "check-in" that suits their needs but not finding anything she really liked, Danielle creates one that she feels is more comprehensive and balanced. Here's some of what this discussion covers:
- How are they doing in terms of supporting one another?
- How is intimacy/sex and how can they improve?
- Parenting wins as well as what they could be doing better.
- Finances
- Fun/laughter
- Gratitude
Any couple who feels they could benefit from a check-in with one another should absolutely listen to this episode, as it exemplifies what it means to take the time to focus on one another and remember that you are a team. It is filled with opportunities for positive discussion, while also leaving room to explore areas for growth.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everybody, welcome to Marriage of Martinez, I'm Adam, here is Danielle. |
| 0:29.2 | Hello, I would like you to start this one, please. Oh, yeah, okay. Yeah, explain kind of what we're |
| 0:35.6 | doing and why because you just sent me the questions and I was like, okay, cool, but you have |
| 0:40.5 | like some idea behind it, right? Sure. I think that as far, well, for us, we're a very unique case |
| 0:49.2 | because we always, aren't we always, we do a podcast together. And so we have kind of a weekly |
| 0:57.8 | check-in and whether we want to or not, but it's not always, it's not always aligned with what we |
| 1:04.5 | need to be checking in about, right? Like sometimes we'll do an episode, you know, just because |
| 1:08.5 | sometimes I listen to something and I'm like, something sparks something in my mind and I'm like, |
| 1:13.2 | oh, that would be a great episode. So a lot of times when we do the podcast, it's not us, |
| 1:21.1 | it's talking about stuff that we want to talk about and should talk about as a couple, |
| 1:25.4 | but maybe not timely, right? Like maybe we don't need to talk about it at that second. |
| 1:29.7 | There are more pressing things and sometimes we do those episodes. Sometimes thing happens |
| 1:34.0 | on a Thursday and I write the episode on a Friday like we need to fucking tackle this. |
| 1:38.9 | But I sort of thought that I was, sometimes I think of ideas for the podcast and I'm like, |
| 1:47.4 | holy shit, I am a fucking relationship guru. Like sometimes I think of things and I'm like, |
| 1:53.3 | this is my calling. I was meant for this. I am coming up with all kinds of things that no one |
| 1:57.8 | has ever thought about before. And then I Google it and I'm like, shit. Someone does it. Right. |
| 2:04.0 | So I had the idea of having sort of a relationship check in where it's sort of general in the sense |
| 2:13.6 | that you sort of go over, like you do for a car, right? I mean, it sounds like a car. Yeah, |
| 2:18.5 | so you're relating us to a car. It sounds sort of like a stupid analogy, but at the same time, |
| 2:24.4 | it makes sense. When the light goes on, most people, not me, but most people call the service station |
| 2:32.0 | like right away. I thought you were going to say most people just ignore it. That's me. That's me. |
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