The REAL Reason Narcissists Want You To Reach Out First!
The Mental Healness Podcast
Lee Hammock
4.9 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 11 November 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Why do narcissists want you to reach out first after a break up? It may have to do with their ego and need for validation. Maintaining no contact can protect you from further narcissistic behavior from a narcissist.
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| 0:00.0 | Narcissists want you to reach out first. Yeah. Wait a minute. I'm not telling you to do that. I'm not saying break no contact, but there are a lot of narcissists that want you to be the first one that reaches out. They want you to be the one that breaks no contact and comes back to them, comes begging back to them before a few different reasons. And those reasons are what we're going to cover today, y'all. |
| 0:22.4 | Of course, if you knew here, I'm Lee Hammock. |
| 0:24.5 | I'm a diagnosed Narcissist myself. |
| 0:26.1 | And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist's Code. |
| 0:28.5 | Let's get it. |
| 0:56.8 | And... Boom. Welcome back, folks. Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back. The first episode of the Mental Healthness podcast is in editing right now. Yay. No, seriously. But we want to drop. We want to drop. We want to drop, baby. We want to drop. Yes, I am dead excited. |
| 1:03.8 | I promise you I am. But that's the way it goes, y'all. I'm serious. Most narcissistic people, |
| 1:10.6 | when the relationship ends, when whatever is going on between y'all I'm serious most narcissistic people when the relationship ends when whatever |
| 1:12.6 | it's going on between y'all ends they want you to be the one that reaches out but why lee i know |
| 1:18.7 | like but lee i don't want to be the one that reaches out but why should i reach out for them i'm not |
| 1:23.0 | telling you to reach out to them that's not what i'm saying at all i'm not saying hey you should reach out to the narcissists because this because of that no i'm not telling you to reach out to them. That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm not saying, hey, you should reach |
| 1:28.6 | out to the narcissist because this because of that. No, I'm not telling you to do that. What I'm saying |
| 1:32.9 | is there are quite a few narcissistic people that absolutely want you to be the one that breaks |
| 1:38.1 | to no contact. But widely, because, because one of the main reasons is because if you reach out to me first, I'm whatever I have done to you. It's okay. You validate me. I'm searching for that validation. As always, most narcissists and toxic people are searching for some type of validation. Validation in some way, shape, or form. |
| 2:02.1 | I'm looking for it. |
| 2:02.9 | I need it. |
| 2:03.8 | I look for it. |
| 2:04.7 | I need it. |
| 2:05.2 | I want all I want it. |
| 2:07.1 | I need you to give it to me. |
| 2:09.2 | And so in order to, for me to get that validation, you reaching out to me, let's me have it. |
| 2:17.0 | It really does. And this is why I tell people, if me have it. It really does. |
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