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I'm good at falling in love with people I can't have.

My name is Andrea and this is it'll child.

Welcome back to adult child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional

family. Ahoi shit shows. Welcome aboard.

I realized that I didn't do it in the last episode, and you probably were hoping that I was just

going to let this one die. I'm not. Just letting you know that. For any new listeners, I am an acquired

taste. You're either going to be really into this shit or not at all. I'm fully aware of that.

So today, we are diving deep with returning guests who I have deemed queen of abandonment,

psychotherapist author Susan Anderson, and thank God for this woman because she is one of the

pioneers that has done the work, done the research to figure out how to help us damn shit shows.

You know, without people like her, we didn't stand a chance. So extremely, extremely grateful for her.

So I just started reading one of her other books, Taming Your Outer Child, Overcoming Self-Sabotage,

and Healing From Abandonment. Now, I'm going to let her talk about what the outer child is,

but in essence, if you are familiar with the term entertainager, it's pretty similar. It is the

reactive part of us inside. It is the one that that acts out. And so this could not be more

relevant for me right now. I was thinking about this today. How this podcast is a vessel for

me to continue to heal what's not healed, the self-doubt, the self-sabotage, all that stuff,

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