The Orgasm Expert: Women Don’t Like Penetrative Sex As Much As Men! This Is How Often You Should Be Having Sex! Stop Inviting Pets Into The Bedroom! - Doctor Karen Gurney

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Society & Culture, Business, Education

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🗓️ 19 February 2024

⏱️ 97 minutes

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Everyone has the desire to be desired, finally, in this episode, the mystery of desire is stripped back. Dr Karen Gurney is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, she has been helping couples tackle sex problems for over 20 years. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life’. In this conversation Karen and Steven discuss topics, such as the reasons for a dead sex life, why women prefer non-penetrative sex, how technology is killing your sex life, and why you should invest in your sexual currency. Topics: 0:00 Intro 02:07 What Do You Do and Why Do You Do It? 03:56 Our Attention Is Being Hijacked Which Is Affecting Our Sex Lives 09:57 Why Does Sex Get Harder the More We Think About It 11:50 Why Expectations and Pressure Make Sex Worse 15:56 Our Society Has Created a "Sexual Script" That's Wrong 17:10 How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner 23:09 How to Tell Your Partner You're Not Attracted to Them Anymore 25:56 How to Not Let Kids Ruin Your Sex Life 27:25 The Demographic That Comes to You More Than Any Other 28:16 Why Desire Goes in a Relationship 34:13 How to Trigger Desire in Your Relationship 38:34 The "Initiation" Problem 40:21 Should We Schedule Sex? 43:05 What Should We Be Doing to Keep Desire High in Our Relationships 45:55 How to Talk About Your Fetish with Your Partner 50:54 What Women Really Want During Sex 52:45 Does It Matter Who Initiates Sex? 56:04 If Our Idea of What We Want From Sex Isn't Happening What Should We Do? 58:31 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:00:56 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:01:15 Should We Have Sex Before or After We Eat? 01:02:22 The Optimal Amount of Times to Have Sex 01:04:16 Sexual Dissatisfaction Between Men and Women 01:07:54 How to Deal with a Sex Life as a Parent 01:11:54 What You Can Do as a Parent to Ensure Your Sex Life Doesn't Go Off Track 01:13:26 The Relationship Between Poor Sleep and Sex 01:16:39 At What Point Should People Reach Out to You? 01:17:21 Have You Ever Seen Relationships That Are Unrecoverable? 01:18:45 The Top 3 Most Common Sexual Problems 01:20:46 The Impact of Pets on Our Sex Lives 01:22:43 Are You Hopeful for the Future of Sex? 01:24:04 How Menopause Affects Our Sex Lives 01:25:21 Our Bodies Changing Over Time and How That Impacts Our Sex Lives 01:26:27 Are We Meant to Be Monogamous? 01:31:51 The Last Guest’s Question You can pre-order Karen’s book, ‘How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life’, here: https://amzn.to/49VnduP Follow Karen Twitter - https://bit.ly/4bEnROQ Instagram - https://bit.ly/49i1AEP Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: Uber: https://p.uber.com/creditsterms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Quick One of my favorite brands that I use literally every single day is now sponsoring this podcast and that is Uber eats on a day on a day one in the morning and one in the afternoon
0:10.6	I'll drop a group order link in our team chat for one of our favorite restaurants
0:15.0	whether it's Joe in the Juice or somewhere new
0:17.0	and I'll set a time window for the team to order
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0:33.0	Everyone wants more sex, better sex, and there is a huge amount that we can do that can guarantee
0:38.9	great sex for the rest of your life.
0:41.5	So that the best place to start is Dr. Karen Gurney. She is a clinical psychologist and
0:46.2	psychosexologist that has been helping individuals and couples overcome sexual problems
0:51.2	for 20 years. She's lead psychologist in an award-winning NHS sex clinic.
0:56.4	This might be surprising to some people.
0:58.2	52% of women and 42% of men are unhappy with the sex lives that they have and that's because as a society
1:04.6	we've got sex all wrong. For example the way desire is represented to us is lost, passion,
1:11.2	spontaneity but it's not the norm.
1:13.8	And the problem is a lot of people are waiting to feel like that,
1:17.1	and they're waiting a really long time.
1:19.1	What we need to do instead is be aware that our desire can be triggered
1:22.3	using what I call sexual currency.
1:24.6	I'll go into that.
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