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Hi, here we go ladies and gentlemen. This is a legendary legendary individual for so many reasons besides having great tastes and fashion. We always bump into him in the Gucci store.

I've been here about Tony at least for 15 years. Multiple people always name job initially who's famous in the martial arts community on all the covers of self-defense magazines. Then Elite Tier 1 units of the military had them come train the seals. The unit you name it classified stuff. We can't even name. He also then worked with law enforcement. He invented the first like self-defense outfits where you could beat on each other and not get hurt but everyone copied that.

So what you think is just mainstream that was actually his invention. I guess I can't patent and trademark something like that because he should be really really really really rich but they robbed him. Also then he created for the CrossFit community a self-defense system designed for crossfitters and people that still wanted to be athletic and fit but use all the tools they have in their CrossFit boxes to also create a self defense system that they could use that went along with the same thing.

So that's why I really wanted to have him on the podcast because I feel like right now locked in quarantine all we have is our mind and more than ever we need to be focusing on keeping our mind strong focusing on the right things. So I was like we need Tony on the podcast but Tony's going to retail you his background. That's my version of his bio.

Welcome Tony welcome. Hey, how are you doing? Are you I'm under the condition under circumstances and doing really good. You know, yeah, I like your shirt. Thank you. Thank you. It's it's probably the most important stuff that we're doing now for people who can't see this. I got a shirt on that says no fear but it's spelled K and W and that's kind of what Spencer was alluding to with the end. The whole mindset stuff realizing that you know I'm not going to be a good guy.

I've been studying violence and martial arts and self defense for 40 years and the thing that I noticed most is that the people who manage their fear manage to stay in the fight.

And so it didn't matter if it was a man or a woman. It didn't matter if it was a kid. It didn't matter what their martial art background whether they were jujitsu or Krav Maga or just fighting just just for survival.

But when I would study people over decades and peel the onion it all came down to the moment somebody flip that switch where they change their relationship with fear. And so we have an expression in our program.

You know, if you manage your fear you manage the fight. And that's what you know going back to what you said spence like like with everyone here is in a fight. And where the ambushes were getting aside from the danger of the virus.

The ambushes that we're all getting right now are negative thoughts worrying about things that aren't even happening. We have an acronym we love love sharing it. And I was just on a very famous sports psychologist show finding master Michael Jerve.

And it's an acronym we use in all of our courses and it's it's F. E. A. R. the acronym for fear and its false evidence appearing real. And and what I like in that too it's when we're visualizing something in the future that's causing us massive amounts of distress so much so that it's immobilizing us in the present.

In other words you find yourself sitting around the house like wasting time on social media sitting in the corner drinking you know not doing what you need to do.

And you know what I'm when I'm working I don't like the term motivational coach but what I'm like doing one on one's with people working with teams or whatever I'm working with.

I remind them like hey we need to always in life we need to always be solving problems. You guys you guys know this reinventing yourself rebuilding.

But I tell people you can't solve a problem if you become the problem in other words you got to learn to develop the self-awareness to get out of your own way.

So sure I feel like this is really helpful for a lot of people out there because yeah more thing into it and I feel like people can build habits of fear and of the future.

And I know even I personally do that sometimes with certain things going on and I have to like remind myself and Spencer helps me too and we just talk about like okay well what is real what is this that's happening so it's it's important like you just said not to become the actual problem you're actually manifesting the thing that you don't want to happen.

Right 100% and everybody does this is like this is a weird thing is is I I'm going to be oblique as I explain this but like some of the people that I coach are professional therapists and psychologists who are going you know how do I you know I tell you like no one would need therapy if there was no fear the only reason we have therapy is because of fear.

And fear they just the idea the psychology of fear and so a lot of you like to talk about fight flight or freeze you all you know you hear that all the time but that's kind of like this like like this band aid that we put on top of anything that's your fighter flights and your mom that's the Vegas and our that's the but it's not giving us actionable ideas and things to think about and so.

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