Hey, welcome to Marriage Day podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. This is my wife Karen. And I'm

going to do a teaching here in a little bit. We'll be going to a teaching on the true and

lasting foundations of peace and marriage. How to have lasting peace in your marriage.

We're going to do that in just a few minutes. But we're going to begin caring with some

questions that we have from our viewers and the first one is for you. And this is my husband

and I are expecting our first child. And I am anxious about how our marriage is going to change.

Social media and other couples tend to focus on the negatives about how parenthood can be damaging

to a marriage. Any suggestions for first time anxious parents to set us up for success in this

new season of our marriage? That's a great question. I think all of us are always anxious and

do something for the very first time. And having a child is a huge responsibility. And you know,

you and I like to say that if your marriage is staying strong, then how you parent will be just as

strong. It's the challenge always comes from thinking somehow a child can change a marriage.

And if you go into it with a perspective of, no, this is a blessing. It's not a burden. It's not

something what social media tells me. It's a blessing from God. And to always put your

relationship with your spouse first. And yes, it's going to be challenging. And yes,

there's going to be times that you're stressed out and the baby didn't sleep or the baby's crying.

But you always come back to the center of who you are as a couple. And making sure you keep

that foundation strong. Well, you know, what I write about in the four laws of love book is talking

about when babies are born, the biggest mistake that parents make is making that child the center

of their universe. And you do see especially first children. You know, second children, I'm a third

child. They didn't care about the time I was born. But especially first children, there's kind

of an obsession. We want to be the perfect parents. You know, we want their child to have everything.

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