The marriage penalty
This Is Uncomfortable
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4.6 • 3.6K Ratings
🗓️ 15 April 2021
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
After spending years fighting to get disability benefits, Amber was finally approved. But she and her wife, Diana, didn’t realize they had entered a complicated, arcane system where health care might cost you your marriage.
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“This Is Uncomfortable” is Reema Khrais, Megan Detrie, Hayley Hershman, Peter Balonon-Rosen, Camila Kerwin and Marque Greene.
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| 0:00.0 | When two people meet, they usually find something to bond over, like their love for movies |
| 0:08.0 | or snowboarding. |
| 0:09.8 | For Amber and Diana, it was their mutual love of bugs. |
| 0:14.1 | I quickly found out that like she was super into entomology. |
| 0:20.4 | I was super charmed by that. |
| 0:22.2 | I was just like, oh my gosh, she's rattling off Latin names like, oh, that's so cool. |
| 0:27.4 | That's Amber. |
| 0:28.4 | Here's Diana. |
| 0:29.4 | When you grow up as a kid and you've got like these things you like that are pretty nerdy, |
| 0:33.9 | it's kind of lonely. |
| 0:36.2 | So finding someone who's equally into it, you know, we can be weird together. |
| 0:42.6 | It was more than just bugs. |
| 0:44.2 | It was nature in general. |
| 0:45.6 | The outdoors had been a haven for both of them growing up. |
| 0:48.4 | They'd met in college and would skip class to hike trails. |
| 0:51.5 | They'd spend their weekends identifying plants and bugs and mushrooms. |
| 0:55.7 | A few months into dating, Diana found a half decomposed deer skull and brought it to Amber, |
| 1:01.0 | you know, hoping it would impress her. |
| 1:03.7 | How did she react? |
| 1:05.0 | I think deep inside her heart grew several sizes. |
| 1:10.5 | After dating for about a year, Amber proposed. |
| 1:13.8 | At that time, same-sex marriage was legal in most states. |
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