These are very valuable lessons that we need in our relationships.

So lesson in one.

Allah the Botul, best-selling author, the modern philosopher of love,

his goal to help you live a better, more meaningful life.

The average human has 70,000 thoughts a day.

The problem is that we don't know how to use them.

For example, we tend to believe we'll find the one.

But that belief has led to more rage, more disappointment, because we're not free to love just anyone.

What's problematic is that we're drawn to love stories that are echoing our childhoods.

And this is something that troubles so many

people because our past was not necessarily happy. We are all confused about love. The

most romantic sentence that people will say is I met this person and we didn't even need to speak.

We just felt on the same page.

Well, this leads to a catastrophic outbreak of sulking.

They say to you, is anything wrong?

Of course there is, but you're not going to tell them.

And the reason is that you're a romantic and you believe that your partner should have alien capacities to look into your wounded soul to understand what the upset is. But of course they can't because they're just human.

So what would you say are the core habits of two people who have a really successful relationship?

What we need is... let's talk about sex. Goodness me does it cause problems.

26% of people in relationships were having sex less than 10 times per year.

So the question is, what are we getting wrong? One of the leading

answers that neither party knows is there is that ding-ding that's normally a sign of a

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