Men give each other things that no one else can.

Because of our definitions of man from society, a lot of men think that we need to, once we have our family, that we need to loan woof it.

We need to go on our journey by ourselves.

We don't need other men.

We don't need anyone.

And society defines that

as being a man but it's not true it's hard for men to reach out to other men and talk about real shit

right so a lot of men do life alone and they're lonely so they try to just harden up and man up

and they don't need other men, but that's not true.

And when it comes to father wounds, we are giving ourselves corrective experiences.

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations.

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you, unrehearsed on purpose,

because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated, just honest.

Today on the Angry Therapist podcast, Fatherhood Wounds.

Most of my life, while growing up, everyone told me to calm down.

It's my two least favorite words, and partly it was because I was so loud.

You know, I was loud because of my family,

Korean people yell.

They scream and they're not even mad, you know.

I have this joke that my parents would be screaming at each other

and they're just asking to pass to catch up, you know.

I was a loud kid and I remember growing up, everyone used to just tell me, calm down, calm. Oh, very activating words for me. If you ever seen me, please don't tell me to calm down.

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