Welcome to the Marriage Today podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. This is my wife Karen and we have

a teaching that's coming up here and just a little bit on what to do when your spouse's

behavior hurts you. Okay, big deal. How to righteously respond when your spouse's behavior

hurts you. The camera we're going to begin with some questions from our viewers and this

one's for you, it says, my spouse blames me for the problem in our marriage, the problems

in our marriage. I'm not saying I'm without fault but there's no accountability or ownership

on his part. What can I do? First of all, it's just classic Adam and Eve. He said she

did. Yeah, so the blame thing's been around since beginning time. You know, I mean that's

where it all began. You know, Eve's sinned and then she blamed the devil and Adam blamed

Eve and so it's just been a recycling thing ever since and one of the things that you

and I learned in our marriage is, you know, we can't change each other but we can change

ourselves and in, you know, working on my own behavior, I learned that, you know, how

I treat you and in my part of it, it's just as important as what you do and you always

like to say, the person does the right thing first is the one that's, you know, and so

I think it's just that, you know, it's two people in the same situation and so it's just

not even, I don't understand how you can't not take ownership of a problem in any marriage

because it's two people. Well, let me go back to the beginning of our marriage and that

is I was the problem and I blamed you for everything. I truly believed you were the problem

and I didn't have any accountability. You know, you would complain to me and I didn't

care and we went to a Sunday school class that you got to say and I didn't want to go to

a Sunday school but you wanted to go. So I went to, we went to a Sunday school class and

we had big fight one morning and I left for work. I was probably around 21, 22 years old

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