Hi and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz show on I Heart Radio.

I've been seeing a lot more posts on my South Florida Facebook boards of people looking to make friends.

They often post a short summary about themselves, sometimes a picture. A lot of the times it's couples.

They describe their interests. They say, I like pickable, I like camping, we surf, that kind of thing like I mentioned last episode a lot of people have

moved states in the last few years Florida has obviously been a hub for that and making friends in adulthood is hard.

One of the things I think about is that we're overthinking this friend making and that's why in the last episode I focus on the fact

that it's not so much that I want to make friends,

which I do, but I want to make more acquaintances.

I want to be able to recognize more people in my neighborhood and just know their names and that's been a bit of a challenge.

So I get that people are having trouble with the next step,

which is actually making friends that you hang out with more.

When you're little, they're outside and you're outside

and now you're friends.

Or maybe they sit next to you in class,

or maybe they share your dorm room,

or maybe you have the same first job,

and on and on, but it's situational, right? You're in the same proximity to each other and that's how you become

friends. But in adulthood, we want a lot of similar match points. The people on the Facebook groups, they're not posting,

I live here, if you live here, let's be friends. They're posting, I'm into this, are you into this, can we be friends? We want to have a lot more things in common, and I'm guilty of it too.

When we moved from Manhattan to Brooklyn, I was much more likely to become friends with

someone if they had more than one kid the same age as my kids. So the people that

we hung out with the most had two or sometimes even three kids that matched up in age with our kids. It was just easier.

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