About 20 years ago my wife said we should adopt and the Lord confirmed that that

was something he wanted us to do and so we have a now 20 year old and he has some special needs and his needs

have affected our family in some pretty significant ways.

His five older siblings would tell you that he is a wonderful blessing

and they had to flex a lot and learn to cope with outbursts and with people coming into the home to give services and to work with him,

there's just a lot of contours there.

And so if you have a special needs child or you have a friend whose family includes a special

needs child. Stick with this. This is going to be a good program for you. I'm John

Fuller in the studio with Dr. Danny Werta who heads up our focus on the family

parenting team and we're going to hear now a conversation that Jim Daly had with

Julie Hornock. Julie's daughter Lizzy is on the autism spectrum and she's going to share how she had to let

go of being a fixer of solving problems. It's completely reasonable I think every

reasonable person every reasonable parent

would have fallen into that mode. It's not a bad thing. But how did you manage trying to

over fix, if I could put it that way.

Well I didn't do well at it at all.

Yeah, I mean I'm a fixer by nature and I really, I mean we jumped in very strong with 30 hours a week of therapy running it out of my house

therapists coming in and out we had behavioral therapy we had 30 hours 30 hours a week

that's a full-time job practically it is a full-time job and doing all those therapies, you know, that was my complete focus.

And I think the problem with being a fixer, like I am, is that that assumes that I know what is right and what is wrong.

And you know lots of times the things that I think are wrong, which in my mind autism

was wrong and I was trying to fix it and go back to that

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