The Hidden Power of Sexual Language with Amanda Montell

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 23 August 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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1:02.7	reorient ourselves to start using words in only positive context, you know, only using
1:09.8	bitch to say me and my bitches, only saying slut as a positive term, you know, only using bitch to say me and my bitches, only saying
1:12.3	slut as a positive term.
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1:20.3	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
1:22.4	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
1:26.6	around sex.
1:27.5	Today I'm talking with Amanda Montel,
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