This assumption that all personal development and growth is going to be on some level rewarded, and that's why we do it. I don't think we really talk about what it asks of us, though. And sometimes the cost feels really high. It's hard, and maybe it's not even rewarded. So why would you potentially do it? You have to have that moment when you go, oh, I'm the problem. Like that moment when you go, oh, wait, it was me. And I've got to do something about that. Your ego doesn't get to just keep

bending the light. You know, it doesn't get to keep pushing away the responsibility of change.

That is a cost to your ego.

Hey, welcome back to the Personality Hacker podcast. My name is Joe Mark Whit. I'm Antonia Dodge.

So, Antonio, my father taught me a lesson when I was a kid. I'll tell you this story. This is a very

interesting lesson. I had this, I was probably like six or seven years old. I had found an old

briefcase at the summer camp. My parents ran. Somebody,

maybe somebody had brought it there. I don't remember how I acquired this old briefcase.

But, you know, ENFP preferences, my little six-year-old self has a little T.E. tertiary, 10-year-old.

Oh, I bet that was cute. Can you imagine me just like, I got all my papers organized and this little, and it's a really disgusting briefcase. Like it's all broken apart. Like it's not a really nice briefcase. I probably found it like it was on its way to the trash or something. Yeah. So it's like this, probably from like the 1970s, early 70s or late 60s at the time I got it. Right. it's probably 10, 12 years. It's just beat up. The hinges are broken on the back. It's like

barely hanging together. But I 70s or late 60s at the time I got it right it's probably 10 12 it's just beat up the hinges are

broken on the back it's like barely hanging together but I would just you know hold it together

and put my folders and files in that and carry it around like a businessman around the summer

camp we were at and just you know that summer I had this and my father came to me one day said

Joel this is it's time I went what, Joel, this is, it's time. I went,

what do you mean? It's time. He's like, it's time for the briefcase to go. I went, what? What are you talking about? He's like, look, it's beat up. I mean, I don't remember all the specifics, but basically this was the sort of the conversation. It was probably talking to a six year old, but Learn to let go of things, six-year-old.

This is the beginning of a lifetime full of disappointments.

And he's like, we need to, and we had a big bonfire. six-year-old. But learn to let go of things, six-year-old. This is the beginning of a lifetime full of disappointments.

And he's like, we need to.

And we had a big bonfire area at the camp and we could build fires there. And there was a fire burning that day. And it was a cleanup day or something, I think. And he's like, we're going to go and we're going to get your stuff out of that because we're going to burn it. not only we're going to throw it away but we're going to burn it in front of you right I'm just a

six year old like what no I'm like you know like this is upsetting to me as a six year old because we're going to throw it away, but we're going to burn it in front of you. Right. I'm just a six year old like, you know, like this is upsetting to me as a six year old. Yes, of course. Because you're going to, but it needed to be burned. Yeah. I mean, he's not wrong. Was it, was it filled with like, it probably bugs in it, mites. I mean, it was just, it was like, whatever, right? It was a beat up little dumb thing or whatever. Yeah. And so, but I'm really distressed about this.

So he takes me. was like whatever right it was just it was a beat up little dumb thing or whatever yeah and so but

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