Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Okay, the five stages of a relationship.

Here we go, you ready?

Let's get right into it.

Stage number one is Discovery.

This is what they call the Honeymoon phase.

I don't like the word honeymoon phase. It's

too lined with sugar. We are discovering. We are discovering a new story, we're

discovering a new body, we're discovering a new way of being with someone, and the discovery phase is,

obviously it's the funnest, Everything is new, right? It's the feeling of test driving a new car, right?

It puts a smile on your face and it turns your dial from judgment to curiosity and it's great it's like

the magical summer right, right after discovery, stage two, because in the discovery phase, there's

also a lot of room to fill in blanks. We are also fantasizing and we haven't yet taken in the

real person. We are only staring at the poster of him or her that is

taped to our bedroom wall. So we're dreaming a lot, you know, we spend, we spend a day or night with that person.

And then the rest of the time we're filling in blanks.

We're wondering, oh, what this could be, lots of dopamine shooting into your brain it's very

exciting the possibilities are endless right the person that you're dating can't do anything

wrong and then of course reality sets in and stage number two is not

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