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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

The Emotional Affairs: Couples Therapy with Ben and Kelsey (Part 2)

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 22 February 2022

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

We’re in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end. Today’s couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They’re finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she’s had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another — so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That’s what we’re going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what’s going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven’t been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends — this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and GetFaithful Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today’s episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hey everyone. Welcome back to the Love and Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felida.

0:24.6

For those of you who don't know me, I'm a licensed professional counselor, an author of five books.

0:29.7

My podcast is typically a hotline style show where I tackle all your questions and candid, practical,

0:36.9

bite-sized answers.

0:38.4

But for the next few weeks, we're shifting gears a little bit.

0:41.5

We're having couples therapy.

0:44.6

I've invited a few couples to come into my studio office and have a live on-air session

0:50.0

about what's going on behind the scenes.

0:53.4

We're pulling back the curtains in marriage,

0:55.8

and we're inviting you in for a sneak peek of what other couples are going through.

1:01.2

These conversations are brave, they're raw, real, and unedited,

1:07.2

because we want you to know that real marriage takes work and it can get pretty messy.

1:12.7

But the reward of a strong, healthy marriage is worth it all for them and for you.

1:19.3

If you're single, I want you to tune in with ears ready to learn and start preparing for your future.

1:26.1

If you're married, I want you to tune in with an open heart of what you might need to work on and change in your own marriage.

1:33.6

Healthy people make healthy relationships.

1:37.7

So let's get to work.

1:40.8

Today we're continuing our conversation with session two with Ben and Kelsey.

1:47.5

They've been so brave and courageous, open and honest.

1:52.1

And I'm just so proud of them to be honest with you.

1:54.9

We just had to do part two because at the end of our last session when we were wrapping up,

2:01.8

I just felt like there was a lot more that we needed to talk about and dig a little bit deeper. So for those of you who

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