Fawning is a relational trauma response where we reflexively, which means unconsciously,

appease or caretake in order to lessen the harm.

And in my personal experience, many of my clients' experiences, the reality is we did try

to speak up, to set a boundary, to create this change out in the world,

and it made things worse.

I think this is something that we don't really think about near as much as we need to.

This is when you silence your own needs, silence your own identity, just to keep the peace.

I want you to be able to bring your full self in to you. And so what does that look like?

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I'll tell you, most of us have heard of the fight or flight reaction and the freeze reaction

that comes along with trauma responses. But there's a

fourth F, and that just may be running your life, and you don't even know it. It's called

fawning. That's when you really work to please others at any cost. I think this is something

that we don't really think about

near as much as we need to. This is when you silence your own needs, silence your own identity,

just to keep the peace. And my guest today, in my opinion, is the expert on this, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.

And Dr. Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology,

PhD in clinical psychology, who has lived it, studied it, and written a book that brings

this overlooked trauma response into the

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