The Danger of Too Much Nit-Picking and Questioning + 2 Ways to Shift to More Acceptance: Episode 195
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 13 October 2021
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it's something we're bringing awareness to shifting between us.
We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you've felt this too?
In this episode we cover:
- The bigger "danger" of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other
- 2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you're not doing this to your partner too much
- 3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. |
| 0:02.4 | We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team no matter the challenge that you face. |
| 0:12.5 | I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:14.0 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:17.3 | And this episode is about the danger of too much nitpicking and questioning, and then two |
| 0:23.0 | ways to shift to more acceptance. And I know some of you clicked on this and you're like, I know |
| 0:28.3 | I probably need to hear this one. This has been showing up in our relationship. And we're going to |
| 0:32.9 | share a little bit of our own experience because personally, this is something we're working through. |
| 0:37.3 | And we've been putting a lot of intention and attention the last couple weeks. bit of our own experience because personally this is something we're working through. |
| 0:37.8 | And we've been putting a lot of intention and attention the last couple weeks. |
| 0:42.7 | And before I share that, I do just want to celebrate that we had our baby shower this last |
| 0:47.2 | weekend. |
| 0:48.2 | Yeah, super fun. |
| 0:49.2 | Oh my gosh, it was so much love and celebration. |
| 0:53.7 | We had some people come into town, a few family members, a few friends, and some locals. |
| 0:59.8 | And it was just really cool. |
| 1:01.0 | The guys did something, which was really fun. |
| 1:03.0 | You know, I feel like women are often really celebrated for the baby shower. |
| 1:08.1 | But I'm so glad, Erin, that you had time with like some really close |
| 1:11.1 | friends you guys did whatever you wanted to do and then we had our I don't know how |
| 1:16.3 | it normally goes for men I've heard there are what men type of baby shower things |
| 1:21.8 | I think it's more rare it hasn't become like the norm yet well we didn't do like the |
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