The Dad Was Right There... But Didn't See: Lessons from Netflix's 'Adolescence' (Part 4/4)
The Dad Edge Podcast
Larry Hagner
4.8 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 23 May 2025
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
What If Obedience Isn’t the Same as Respect?
We all want to raise good kids — respectful, obedient, and successful.
But what if obedience is just compliance… no connection?
In this episode, I dive deep into the final chapter of Netflix’s Adolescence, and the heartbreaking unraveling of Jamie Miller, a 13-year-old boy whose silent pain led to tragedy.
His father, Eddie, never saw it coming. Why? Because the connection was missing, even though he thought he was doing everything “right.”
I open up about how even committed, hardworking dads like us can miss the quiet red flags our kids are waving. We explore how our need to discipline, protect, and “fix” can sometimes get in the way of the one thing our kids need most: to feel seen and safe.
This episode isn’t about shame. It’s about waking up.
Because your influence as a dad doesn’t come from authority—it comes from emotional safety.
If you’ve ever believed “my kid is doing fine,” this might be the most eye-opening 20 minutes you’ll spend all year.
I’ll also give you a practical framework to help you ask better questions, create deeper emotional connections, and build a relationship your kids will trust—especially when things get tough.
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In this episode, I share:
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Why “How was your day?” might be the weakest way to check in
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The 3 fatherhood defaults that kill connection: Distance, Disapproval, and Discipline
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How to use the CARE method (Curiosity, Affirmation, Repair, Expectation) to reconnect with your child
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Why our kids confuse disconnection with disinterest—and how to fix it
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The real reason obedience without emotional connection doesn’t build trust
Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention:
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Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction.
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Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%.
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Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%.
If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Dad Edge podcast. The Dad Edge movement creates leaders of men, leaders of families, and leaders of communities. We will not only impact this generation of fathers, but the next generation as well. The kids we are raising will have better chances and odds stacked in their favor because of the amazing example |
| 0:21.2 | that their fathers emulated for them. We are here to change the world. We are here to change |
| 0:27.6 | relationships. We are here to positively disrupt this generation of fathers so no man goes to their |
| 0:33.6 | grave with regret. We disrupt the drift of busyness and replace it with razor-focused intention, |
| 0:40.3 | passion, purpose, and direction. |
| 0:43.7 | We are the Dad Edge, |
| 0:45.9 | and we're here to change the game. |
| 0:47.8 | We're here to change the game. |
| 1:10.4 | I don't know. We are talking all things, the Adolescence Netflix series, holy cow, man, this is our last episode. |
| 1:13.5 | What I'll tell you is without connection, |
| 1:18.7 | we don't have any influence. And without connection, our discipline is actually not even that effective. What's up, gentlemen? I'm Larry Hagner. I am your host and founder of this podcast, |
| 1:22.8 | this show, a movement, and welcome to the Dad Edge podcast. I've been doing these solo shows now on |
| 1:27.4 | Fridays, and from what I'm getting from you guys, and from what I've been doing these solo shows now on Fridays, |
| 1:28.1 | and from what I'm getting from you guys and from what you've been sharing with me over |
| 1:31.5 | emails and DMs is you really actually really like these, like short bursts of really good |
| 1:35.6 | information. I've gotten a lot of great feedback about our April podcast we were doing, |
| 1:39.9 | all about motivation. Seems like that really struck a chord with a lot of you guys, |
| 1:43.6 | and now we're doing adolescence. And this last, this last episode, I really want to focus on one thing. And that is, |
| 1:50.2 | like I said, without connection, we don't have any influence. And if you really look at this, |
| 1:54.4 | and again, sorry guys, time out real quick. If you haven't seen adolescence, I'm telling you |
| 1:58.9 | right now, I'm going to be throwing some spoilers in this episode. So if you haven't seen adolescence i'm telling you right now i'm gonna i'm gonna be throwing some spoilers in this episode so if you haven't seen it you want to see it you don't want to have spoilers |
| 2:04.4 | then hit the pause button come back to this episode after you've seen it so now that you know that |
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