We're honored to be joined again by author and speaker Paul Tripp on the Aspastro

John podcast.

He is the author of several books, including the book Sex and Money.

I have a bigger question for Christian leaders later, but first Paul, we frequently receive

heartbreaking emails from listeners of this podcast, specifically from wives, who are

feeling increasingly uncomfortable about the sexual expectations that their husbands bring

into the bedroom.

Not all, but many of these women recognize this as the influence of pornography on the

men, pushing husbands to expect increasingly lurid acts from their wives.

So what would you say to women in this situation and what would you say to the men as well?

Well, it should never be the situation where a woman after having sex with her husband

feels put upon, feels demeaned, feels dirty, feels guilty, thinks that maybe she's done

something that's not pleasing to God, or walks away with shame.

Shame in marital sex is a screaming, flashing alarm, because shame should not be part of

marital sex.

It's the one place where sex isn't to be shameful.

Now, if I have those shame feelings, it means that I have been forced to do things that

I don't understand that my conscience is pushing against because the person who I'm having

sex with is demanding rather than serving.

How could it be anything else?

So I'm pushed to places that I'm not comfortable in, and that is clearly what's going on there.

Now, to the men, I would say this, I think that one of the lies of a cultural view of sex

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