The Brain Rot Dr: We’re Using Up All Our Dopamine! Get Off Screens!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Society & Culture, Business, Education

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🗓️ 30 September 2024

⏱️ 159 minutes

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Summary

Welcoming back Dr Alok Kanojia onto DOAC for the second time, this conversation covers a variety of subjects from the search for purpose, the journey of healing, the loneliness epidemic to the role of dopamine in our lives, specifically around sex and relationships, amongst many more. Dr K is a psychiatrist and co-founder of the mental health coaching company 'Healthy Gamer', which aims to help with modern stressors, such as social media, video games, and online dating. (0:00) Intro (1:35) What Does Dr K Do? (2:57) Dr K's Background (5:35) The TikTok-ification Of Mental Health (8:13) Dr K's Thoughts On Men's Mental Health (10:57) What About Women's Issues? (13:38) How Do I Understand Myself? (16:57) Self-Development Junkies (18:22) Talking About Our Problems Makes Them Worse (23:00) Deficiency Promotion (24:46) The Role Of Dopamine In Happiness (27:23) Serotonin's Role (28:59) Why Couples Get Comfortable & Have Less Sex! (30:57) How To Love And Find Love (34:11) Stress And The Effects On Libido (35:57) The Science Behind Attraction (40:32) Should We Plan Sex? (41:58) Continuous Exposure Reduces Emotions (44:08) How To Keep Sex Exciting When It Becomes A Chore (47:38) The Dangers Of Devices On Our Relationships (53:14) The Generations That Were Born Connected (55:15) Are People Becoming More Narcissistic? (1:01:30) The Lonely Epidemic (1:03:53) It All Comes From Within (1:09:07) Believing Something In Your Mind Makes It True (1:13:24) You're Suppressing Your Emotions (1:16:31) How To Process Your Emotions (1:22:26) The Research On Yoga As A Form Of Therapy (1:26:40) Trauma And The Ability To Achieve Our Goals (1:31:47) Parenting With More Autonomy = Better Kids (1:33:14) How To Become A Self-Starter (1:34:33) Where Steven's Drive Comes From (1:41:32) What Do People See When They Look At Steven? (1:43:03) You Need To Fix Trauma, Not Cover It Up (1:49:46) How Do You Heal? (1:55:10) The Journey Of Healing (2:03:48) What Is Mukti? (2:05:02) How Can We Listen To Ourselves When We Have So Much To Do? (2:08:40) How Do We Get To Happiness? (2:11:18) Morning Routines For Calm (2:13:27) How To Demolish A Habit (2:14:49) The Benefits Of Keeping A Diary (2:15:59) What Are People Looking For? (2:18:42) How Do Young People Find Their Purpose? (2:21:03) What Is A Quarter-Life Crisis? (2:30:04) The Best Questions Are Deep In Your Heart (2:32:28) How Can Steven Be A Better Podcaster? (2:33:46) The Guest's Last Question You can order Dr Alok’s book, ‘How to Raise a Healthy Gamer’, here: https://amzn.to/3V5jfLV To learn more from Dr Alok in his Guide to Mental Health: https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/guide Dr Alok’s YouTube Channel: https://g2ul0.app.link/UmQFv9HjjNb Follow Dr Alok: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3V59nS4 Instagram - https://bit.ly/49GFrQN Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Sponsors: zoe.com/daily30 with an exclusive code PODCAST10 for 10% off

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0:00.0	This is the whole problem that everyone makes.
0:02.0	Anytime we have a problem, the first thing that we do is we try to jump to a solution.
0:06.0	If I'm unhappy in life, I need to make more money.
0:08.0	If I'm struggling with dating, I need to be sexier.
0:11.0	It's a concept that I call toxic fuel and that will never work.
0:14.0	Because if I give you a glass of water and then I piss it and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss.
0:19.2	Because no amount of building something good will remove something back in order to change behavior what you need to do is
0:26.4	So true. Dr. Kay is the Harvard trained psychiatrist and former monks specializing in
0:31.2	modern mental health blending neuroscience with real life wisdom
0:34.1	to help millions of people unlock their true potential.
0:36.9	There's a loneliness epidemic, social anxiety is increasing,
0:39.6	and falling in love seems harder.
0:41.0	But we have all the answers.
0:42.1	The problem is that everyone is doing the wrong things now.
0:44.6	First of all, talking about our problems can absolutely make things worse because there's a particular way we have to talk, but we're not taught how to do that.
0:51.6	The second thing is that we are struggling to fall in love, and that's actually but we're not taught how to do that. The second thing is we're
0:52.5	struggling to fall in love and that's actually because we're exhausting our dopamine
0:56.0	through things like devices. Yeah, people don't realize and then the rise in
1:00.2	social anxiety is because everyone is texting. So the parts of our brain that
1:03.8	reassure us in social situations are starting to rust. So there are core things
1:08.8	that we have to start doing. So the first is that...
1:11.3	Dr. King, why don't people achieve their goals?
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