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Hacking Your ADHD

The Belonging Paradox: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Otito Iwuchukwu

Hacking Your ADHD

William Curb

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8702 Ratings

🗓️ 21 July 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Hey team!

Our guest today is Dr. Otito Iwuchukwu, who is here to talk about the emotional and psychological aspects of belonging and how it impacts our day-to-day lives. Dr. Iwuchukwu has a Master of Arts in Organizational Psychology from the College of Psychology and Counseling, a Ph.D. in Pharmaceutical Sciences, with a specialization in Drug Metabolism and Pharmacokinetics, from Temple University, and is currently an Associate Professor at Fairleigh Dickinson University. Her scholarly contributions appear in a range of peer-reviewed and indexed publications and have been presented at numerous research meetings and symposia across the world.

Additionally, Dr. Iwuchukwu has recently written The Belonging Paradox, a book that presents a new way to understand belonging as an adaptive journey rather than a static destination.

In this episode, we talk about why belonging is a dynamic, ongoing process, not a fixed state, and how we can create more inclusive environments for ourselves and others. We’ll also discuss how masking impacts our sense of belonging, the role boundaries play in maintaining our authenticity, and the importance of giving ourselves and others grace. If you’ve ever struggled with finding your place, especially in social settings or work environments, you’ll find practical tools in this conversation for navigating those tough moments.

The Belonging Paradox - https://www.otitoiwuchukwu.com/new-book/

Dr. Otito Iwuchukwu on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/otitoiwuchukwu/

If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at https://HackingYourADHD.com/232

https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk - YouTube

https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD - Patreon

This Episode's Top Tips

1. Belonging isn’t a fixed state, but an ongoing process that changes with both your internal state and the external environment. Recognizing this can help you manage expectations and frustrations when your sense of belonging fluctuates.

2. Recognize that you don’t have to belong to every group, and not all groups are meant for a deep, personal connection. Don’t force yourself to belong in every situation; if a group or environment doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to step back.

3. You don’t have to be liked by everyone. Instead, it’s important for us to focus on finding spaces where we can truly belong. It’s about finding authentic connections, not chasing superficial acceptance.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Hacking your ADHD. I'm your host, William Kerb, and I have ADHD. On this podcast, I dig into the tools, tactics, and best practices to help you work with your ADHD brain.

0:16.0

Hey team, our guest today is Dr. Otito Ouku-Kuchoo, who is here to talk about the emotional

0:21.7

and psychological aspects of belonging and how it impacts our day-to-day lives.

0:26.7

Dr. O'wukuchu has a Master of Arts in Organizational Psychology from the College of

0:30.7

Psychology and Counseling, a PhD in pharmaceutical sciences with a specialization in drug

0:35.6

metabolism and pharmacokinetics from Temple University,

0:38.3

and is currently an associate professor at Fair Lay Dickinson University. Her scholarly

0:43.5

contributions have appeared in a range of peer-reviewed and index publications and have been presented

0:47.7

at numerous research meetings and symposia across the world. Additionally, Dr. Iwukachu has recently

0:52.8

written The Belonging Paradox, a book that

0:54.7

presents a new way of understanding belonging as an adaptive journey rather than a static

0:59.7

destination. In this episode, we talk about why belonging is a dynamic, ongoing process,

1:05.0

not a fixed state, and how we can create a more inclusive environment for ourselves and others.

1:09.8

We'll also discuss how masking impacts our sense of belonging,

1:12.9

the role boundaries play in maintaining our authenticity,

1:15.9

and the importance of giving ourselves and others' grace.

1:18.8

If you've ever struggled with finding your place,

1:21.0

especially in social settings or work environments,

1:23.5

you'll find practical tools in this conversation for navigating those tough moments.

1:27.3

If you'd like to follow along on the show notes page, you can find that at HackingRadHD.com

1:31.9

slash 232.

1:34.2

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