The Alcohol Myth That Kept Me 'Fun' But Small with Dustin Dunbar • 375

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Melissa Monte | Mindset Mentor

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 897 Ratings

🗓️ 19 November 2024

⏱️ 64 minutes

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We will learn: The surprising science behind how alcohol affects your social confidence – even after just a couple drinks A fresh approach to navigating social situations that doesn't require liquid courage The unexpected link between everyday stress and drinking habits – and how to break free from this cycle once and for all Have you ever had that moment when you're a few drinks in, feeling like the conversation is flowing perfectly... but the next morning you find yourself overthinking every single thing you said? You weren't even drunk – just "socially lubricated" enough to wonder if maybe you talked a little too much, laughed a little too loud, or shared a little too freely. Here's what's fascinating – recent studies show that millennials and Gen Z are leading a quiet revolution in drinking culture. Alcohol consumption among young adults has dropped by 20% in the last decade. They're asking the questions many of us have been afraid to ask: Why is having a drink in hand the default setting for every social gathering? But here's where it gets really interesting – 70% of people who rely heavily on alcohol have underlying stuff they haven't dealt with. Not necessarily major trauma – sometimes it's just the accumulated stress of life, social anxiety, or patterns we picked up growing up. When you really think about it, alcohol isn't solving these challenges; it's just putting them on pause. Today our guest is Dustin Dunbar, founder of the Alcohol-Free Revolution and author of a groundbreaking new book that's challenging everything we think we know about drinking culture. After watching alcohol's subtle but persistent influence through three generations of his family, Dustin didn't just break free from these patterns – he's starting a movement that's helping thousands rediscover what genuine connection feels like without the buzz. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/375 Become a Mind Love Member for high-value Masterclasses, Growth Workbooks, Monthly Meditations, and Uninterrupted Listening FREE 5-Days to Purpose Email Course Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Have you ever had that moment where you're a few drinks in, you're feeling like the conversation is flowing perfectly.
0:07.0	But then, the next morning, you find yourself overthinking every single thing you said.
0:13.0	You weren't even drunk, just socially lubricated.
0:17.0	Enough to wonder if maybe you've talked a little too much, or laughed a little too loud, or shared a little too freely.
0:24.3	I remember sitting at my kitchen table one Sunday morning, scrolling through texts from the night before.
0:30.6	I'd had maybe three drinks, which is totally normal by most standards.
0:36.0	But reading through those messages,
0:38.2	I noticed how my usual filter had slipped just enough to make me cringe.
0:43.8	And if you know me, you know that I don't even really have a filter,
0:46.9	so that's saying something.
0:48.8	You guys listen to this podcast, you probably do know that.
0:52.0	Well, I had been so sure that I was being confident and engaging.
0:56.0	But that morning, I asked myself a question that changed everything.
1:00.0	Why do I need alcohol to feel like I can fully show up in social situations?
1:06.0	It's been three years since I gave up drinking.
1:09.0	And honestly, besides recovering from bulimia, it's been the best decision I've ever made.
1:14.6	Trust me, I had all of the same hesitations that you might be having right now.
1:18.6	Alcohol was tied to every good memory and every celebration and every moment of letting loose.
1:24.6	But now that I'm on the other side, I can see everything so much more clearly.
1:30.2	My thoughts are sharper, my motivation is stronger, and my vision for my life, let alone each day, is just bigger than it's ever been.
1:39.2	And here's what's fascinating.
1:40.7	I'm not alone in this questioning.
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