Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne.

If you missed last week's episode with Sarah McDougal, go back to last week and listen in.

We had an amazing discussion from a faith perspective about how women need to be safe from abuse. So if you haven't heard that,

I encourage you to go back. Sarah McDougal is an author, international speaker,

and abuse recovery coach for women in the faith community who are healing from abusive relationships.

Her passion is to lead women out of the wilderness into a wild and abundant life with Jesus.

Welcome back on today's episode, Sarah.

Thank you, Anne. We had so much fun last time I'm excited about today too.

So I was really dying to ask you this.

When it comes to co-dependency or co-ict, or co-sex addict,

how do you see in your community

this term being against victims?

I think it's bonk.

So one of the biggest things that I get on a continual regular basis is this whole idea from women who are trying to figure out which way is up they've recently found out or had continuing disclosures

that they are married to a sex addict, that their whole world is not what they thought it was,

and then they go to therapy or their husband goes to

therapy and comes home and tells them that the real problem is that they're

co addicted and they're part of the triggers and that they're co-dependent and so they are equally

responsible for his sex addiction as he is. And I can't tell you, maybe you already know,

there are so many women who have an incredible experience of double abuse by therapists and therapeutic organizations, when they get hit in the face with the idea that they are

somehow supposed to share in the responsibility for their spouse's sexual addiction.

There are so many reasons that is completely wrong, including the really basic fundamental reality that every adult human is responsible for their own choices.

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