Okay, so I'm a first porn and I rather love rules. I think they're great, but parenting.

That explains a lot, right now. I've learned a lot, just about that one sentence.

You knew this about me, you knew this. That's kind of the running joke around here. I'm the older brother. But you might find that rules don't work with your teenager. We're going to talk about that today. I'm John Fuller

with Dr. Danny Werta, he heads up our focus parenting department and Danny

formulas, rules, structure that can all work against me as I parent a teenager.

Oh come on teens love that they love being controlled and and having a formula

Okay so softball question come on now you you've worked let's go let's go to your practice because you worked with a lot of

families so do you have any kids that came in and it was so obvious that first-born mom and dad were

just applying the wrong formula?

Yeah, no, this has happened a lot.

There's a formula that they learned and they wanted to apply to their teen.

And teens have so many nuances of really what's going on.

The different pressures they have

coming at their way the the ways they're interpreting relationships and

friendships and then they're bringing that home and to overlay a formula over that

only creates really a lot of misunderstanding the the teenager

in the cases where I've worked with teens where this has happened the teen says my

parents don't know me they don't understand me I don't feel connected to them

there's a lot of disconnection there and there's a lot of anger and frustration towards their parents

and the parents are trying to do this out of a heart of I want to

guide you well there's there's a desire to shape their kids well but there's also

another part to the parents where there's fear of losing control their kids.

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