TAM+ Episode 47: Where You End and Healing Begins: Building Boundaries in Recovery
The Addicted Mind Podcast
Duane Osterlind, LMFT
4.8 • 621 Ratings
🗓️ 5 December 2024
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, replaying that moment when you said "yes" but every fiber of your being was screaming "no"? In this transformative episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive deep into one of recovery's most overlooked yet crucial components: setting healthy boundaries.
They explore why boundaries aren't walls that keep people out, but rather fences that let the right things in. The hosts break down common misconceptions about boundaries, explaining why they're not selfish acts but essential tools for self-respect and healing. Through practical examples and clear guidance, they show how proper boundaries can actually lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships while protecting your recovery journey.
What makes this episode particularly valuable is its practical approach. The hosts provide a step-by-step guide to setting and maintaining boundaries, from starting small to handling pushback. They emphasize that while setting boundaries might feel uncomfortable at first, especially for those who haven't seen them modeled in their lives, they're skills that can be learned and improved over time.
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KEY TOPICS• What boundaries are and aren't: dispelling common myths
• The connection between boundaries and successful recovery
• How boundaries foster deeper intimacy rather than prevent it
• Practical steps to start setting healthy boundaries
• The importance of consistency and self-compassion in boundary setting
[00:00:00] - Introduction and importance of boundaries in recovery
[00:06:00] - Understanding what boundaries are not
[00:09:43] - How boundaries protect sobriety and emotional wellbeing
[00:11:27] - Practical steps to setting boundaries
[00:13:58] - Step-by-step example of enforcing boundaries
[00:17:12] - Community support and resources for boundary setting
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Addicted Mind Plus, the podcast where recovery, mental health, and wellness take the front seat. |
| 0:07.3 | I'm Dwayne Austerland, and joining me is my co-host, Eric Osterland, known for his insightful work on the Stuck Brain podcast. |
| 0:14.3 | In each episode, we'll dive into actionable, small steps to help those in recovery journey further along the path to wellness. |
| 0:22.3 | Our conversations are designed to be concise, typically around 15 minutes, though we may |
| 0:27.0 | occasionally delve deeper when the topic demands it. Our goal to provide you with practical |
| 0:32.0 | advice grounded in real experiences and expert insights to empower your recovery journey. So whether you're on a |
| 0:39.3 | break, on a walk, or just taking a moment for yourself, join us as we explore the many |
| 0:44.1 | facets of recovery and mental health, one small step at a time. This is The Addicted Mind Plus, |
| 0:50.3 | where your journey to wellness gets an extra boost. So let's get started. |
| 0:54.7 | Hello, everyone. |
| 0:57.2 | Welcome to The Addicted Mind. |
| 1:03.6 | Plus, I'm Dwayne Austerlund and my co-host, Eric Osteland, is here with me. |
| 1:05.7 | And we got a great episode today. |
| 1:06.8 | Let's dive in. I think this episode is one of those components of recovery that really gets missed easily. |
| 1:15.6 | I would agree. This episode is so important for recovery and just mental health in general. |
| 1:23.3 | We need to know how to do this. Yeah, absolutely. And I think it's very easy to talk about this topic and incredibly difficult to incorporate |
| 1:35.3 | into your life. |
| 1:36.3 | So have you ever found yourself saying yes when every fiber of your being was screaming, |
| 1:43.3 | no? Or maybe you've watched helplessly as someone |
| 1:47.3 | crossed the line, you never even knew you needed to draw. If you're nodding right now, you're not |
| 1:51.7 | alone. This is definitely true. I would go even further. Have you ever found yourself lying awake |
| 1:58.5 | at night? You know, we replay that moment. You wish you would have said |
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