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🗓️ 15 May 2025
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The Liberation of Letting Go: Finding Joy in What You Choose to Miss
Have you ever felt that nagging anxiety when you miss a social gathering, decline an invitation, or don't immediately respond to a text? That feeling has a name—FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)—and it might be silently sabotaging your recovery journey.
In this enlightening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore a powerful mindset shift from FOMO to JOMO (Joy of Missing Out). They reveal how the constant pressure to be everywhere and do everything can lead to overwhelm, anxiety, and disconnection from our true values.
The hosts share how social media intensifies this fear by showing everyone's highlight reels, making us feel like we're falling behind or missing crucial experiences. This comparison trap hits especially hard during recovery, whispering lies that rest equals laziness or declining invitations means losing connection.
But there's hope in embracing JOMO—the conscious choice to find peace in saying no and truly meaning it. Unlike FOMO, which research links to lower life satisfaction and poor self-esteem, JOMO helps build emotional resilience and alignment with personal values.
Through six practical steps, Duane and Eric guide listeners on how to recognize FOMO's presence, identify what they're truly afraid of missing, and shift perspective to see what they gain by setting boundaries. This isn't about avoidance—it's about intention and making choices from clarity rather than fear.
The hosts emphasize that recovery doesn't mean you're behind; you're exactly where you need to be. Sometimes the most powerful action is choosing peace over pressure and stillness over striving. JOMO isn't disconnection—it's reconnection to yourself, your needs, and what truly matters.
For those ready to practice this transformative skill, the episode points to a downloadable worksheet and invites listeners to join The Addicted Mind community for deeper support. Because recovery isn't something you have to face alone—and sometimes, the quiet joy of letting go is exactly what your healing journey needs.
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Key Topics
Understanding the difference between FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
How social media intensifies FOMO and impacts recovery
Research showing FOMO's connection to lower life satisfaction and poor self-esteem
Six practical steps to shift from FOMO to JOMO mindset
Making choices based on values rather than fear
The importance of community in recovery
Finding peace in intentional choices rather than reactive decisions
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0:00.0 | Welcome to the Addicted Mind Plus, the podcast where recovery, mental health, and wellness take the front seat. |
0:07.0 | I'm Dwayne Austerland, and joining me is my co-host, Eric Osterland, known for his insightful work on the Stuck Brain podcast. |
0:14.8 | In each episode, we'll dive into actionable, small steps to help those in recovery journey further along the path to wellness. |
0:22.3 | Our conversations are designed to be concise, typically around 15 minutes, though we may |
0:27.0 | occasionally delve deeper when the topic demands it. Our goal to provide you with practical |
0:32.0 | advice grounded in real experiences and expert insights to empower your recovery journey. So whether you're on a |
0:39.3 | break, on a walk, or just taking a moment for yourself, join us as we explore the many facets |
0:44.5 | of recovery and mental health, one small step at a time. This is The Addicted Mind Plus, where |
0:50.6 | your journey to wellness gets an extra boost. So let's get started. |
0:55.6 | All right, everyone. |
0:57.5 | Welcome to The Addicted Mind. |
1:00.0 | Plus, I'm with my co-host today. |
1:02.4 | Eric Osseling, good to be here again. |
1:04.4 | I'm glad you're back. |
1:08.3 | What if I told you that the moments you're skipping, |
1:12.7 | the parties you decline, the opportunities you pass up, maybe even the text you're skipping, the parties you decline, the opportunities you pass up, |
1:18.6 | maybe even the text you leave unanswered, might actually be the key to more peace, |
1:23.1 | that deeper joy, and that stronger sense of self. |
1:27.6 | Look, we live in a world that tells us we need to be everywhere. |
1:33.9 | I know I feel that pressure all the time to do everything, to complete everything, and to always say yes. |
1:36.0 | But what if the real healing, the real transformation comes when we choose to miss out? Today, on the Addictive Mind Plus, we're diving into the power of Jomo, |
1:51.1 | the joy of missing out, and how this mindset shift can be a powerful tool in your recovery journey |
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