Talking About Hard Things in Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 3 of 5]

Famous at Home

Josh + Christi Straub

Parenting, Relationships, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture, Kids & Family

4.9 • 653 Ratings

🗓️ 23 July 2024

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.

Difficult conversations in marriage are inevitable. Whether it's parenting, sex, holidays, work schedules, or in-laws, all couples deal with "an elephant in the room." How can we best show up in these conversations? In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to talk about hard things in marriage.

Here are some highlights:

How to identify your motive when starting a hard conversation and why it’s important.
How to set the tone in your conversations.
How to respond to your spouse without flipping your lid.
Ways to lead with a team approach and an "us against the world" attitude with your spouse.

We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

Show Notes:
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Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
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Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
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Time stamps:
(0:15) Introduction
(5:21) Hard topics we have in our marriage
(6:25) Hard topics: In-laws, holidays, kids, sex, insecurity, habits, schedules, money, faith
(9:50) The dance of being offended and flipping into defensive mode
(14:56) Defending our idols at the expense of the relationship
(18:12) Picking a fight when you need attention
(20:03) 1. Start with connection
(21:30) 2. Set the tone
(23:35) 3. Lead with a team approach
(23:24) 4. Own your part
(25:00) 5. Come with the solution, not the problem
(25:30) How to pray and bring the authority of heaven into the conversation
(29:00) We, therefore, I…are you in?
(31:15) Subduing division and praying goodness into conversation

Transcript

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Famous at Home podcast with Dr. Josh and Christy Straub.
0:06.0	Because when it's all said and done, we all want to know that we were famous at home.
0:14.7	Welcome back to the Famous at Home podcast.
0:17.6	Today we are in episode three of a five-part series on cultivating an emotionally healthy marriage.
0:22.8	We're talking about talking about hard things.
0:26.4	We're going to be talking about hard things.
0:29.7	Hard things in marriage.
0:31.4	So the difficult topics, we call them elephants, the elephants that come waddling into our room every now and again into our
0:38.3	marriage and we argue about it, we dance around it, but then we never really resolve it and it
0:45.1	kind of walks out of the room and it rears its ugly head another time. That's what we're talking about.
0:50.9	How do we talk about those things? We set the stage for that last week with cultivating emotional safety in the home and in your marriage. This week is talking about hard
0:59.7	things. So what I would love to do is also remind you that we have PDF downloads and a free
1:06.8	workbook for you to be able to download during this series. If this is your first introduction
1:10.9	to this series, all five episodes will have the PDF download and workbook available for you for
1:16.6	free. You can download that in the show notes. I also want to make highlight of this. We do a weekly
1:22.0	devotional. We'd love for you to sign up for that online. That is in the show notes today.
1:26.7	We actually put an example one in there for you to sign up for that online. That is in the show notes today. We actually put an example,
1:28.9	one in there for you to be able to read, particularly on the topic of marriage. And so you can read that
1:36.9	and then decide if you want to subscribe, but it's a free weekly devotional that we send out
1:40.5	through Famous at Home, just things that I'm constantly learning about being a father,
1:45.4	being a husband, and just growing as a son of God. And so we'd love for you to sign up for that.
1:51.1	Final reminder here today is Tender and Fierce is coming up. August 7th, it begins on a Wednesday night.
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