Taking the opposite advice - I feel unlovable and unwanted

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2016

⏱️ 110 minutes

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Summary

Anxiety, anger, sadness and other emotional advice on the internet seems to be the same where ever you look: Think positively, breathe, count to 10, etc. I'm generalizing of course, but many times, it'll seem like you're reading the same article over and over again, as if the information is just being passed from blog to blog. But, what would happen if you turned the advice around and did the opposite? Funny thing is, that's how I developed some of the tools over here at The Overwhelmed Brain. I just take "normal" advice and do the opposite to see what happens. Hmm... seems to work! Also, I get a letter from a woman who has it all together, found a great relationship, but then the guy left for seemingly no reason. Now she feels hurt, unlovable, unwanted and isn't sure if her pain is from the past before the relationship started or from the breakup itself. This is a LOADED episode and may take two sittings before you get through it.

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0:00.0	This week's episode of the overwhelmed brain is brought to you by the power of positive thinking.
0:06.0	Just kidding.
0:10.0	Are you annoyed by affirmations?
0:12.0	Isn't it even more annoying when someone reframes a terrible moment at a terrible time?
0:17.0	Oh no, I got a flat tire. I'm so late for my first day on the job.
0:22.0	Think positively! If they rarely care about you as their new employee,
0:26.0	they'll wait for you and understand completely why you're late. You don't understand. It took me three
0:31.5	interviews to get this job. Now here I am stuck on the side of the road.
0:36.0	Ha ha ha ha ha! You are so negative! Just have one of your servants call for a limo and pick you up.
0:42.0	I don't have servants. one of your servants call for a limo and pick you up.
0:43.1	I don't have servants.
0:45.1	Then don't!
0:46.1	It's not my fault that you're always so negative.
0:48.6	Just last night when I went to my third massage appointment for the day,
0:51.9	I was telling Lamasus how you are always upset.
0:55.1	In fact, I've never seen you in a good mood.
0:58.0	Oh, really? Well, I'm actually in a great mood about 95% of the time, and only 5% of the time I'm in a great mood about 95% of the time and only 5% of the time I'm in a bad mood.
1:05.0	Huh, so change that 5% to zero and soon you'll be thinking positively.
1:10.0	Well that should be easy because 5% of the time I'm with you.
1:15.0	All I have to do is change who I'm with during that time and I know I'll be happy naturally.
1:20.0	Oh, you see? Now you got it.
1:22.0	Whoever you're with during that 5% is what's causing your frustrations.
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