Susan David, Ph.D. - Emotional Agility
The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer
4.6 • 2.5K Ratings
🗓️ 20 February 2019
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.
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In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss…
- Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life
- How emotions are a guidance system
- That emotions can help us adapt and thrive
- The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”
- Emotional Agility
- Loosening up, calming down and living with more intention
- The space between stimulus and response
- Emotional rigidity
- Allowing the story in our head to drive our actions
- Being who we most want to be in this world
- Moving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it”
- Getting hooked – accepting thought as fact
- That we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data source
- The story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted way
- How to get unhooked
- Getting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hooked
- I’m noticing that I’m feeling ____
- Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves
- “Walking your why”
- Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values?
- Social contagion
- Keeping your values front of mind
- Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life
- That our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our values
- Under our difficult emotions are signposts for our values
- Premature cognitive commitment
- Stories help us to make sense of our world
- Naming our stories
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| 0:00.0 | when we connect with our emotions, our emotions actually help us to adapt and thrive. |
| 0:05.0 | Even the difficult ones. |
| 0:14.4 | Welcome to the One You Feed. |
| 0:16.4 | Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have, |
| 0:21.0 | quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. |
| 0:26.6 | And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. |
| 0:30.8 | We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear. |
| 0:35.6 | We see what we don't have instead of what we do. |
| 0:38.4 | We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. |
| 0:41.9 | But it's not just about thinking. |
| 0:43.9 | Our actions matter. |
| 0:45.3 | It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. |
| 0:50.2 | This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, |
| 0:54.6 | how they feed their good walls. |
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