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Welcome back to what about your friends a podcast dedicated to the many lives of friendship and house betrayed and pop culture on this week's episode of what about your friends my co host and BFF and I will be talking about being there for a friend during good and hard times.

But first how's your heart Stephen I feel a little overwhelmed trying to do as much as you can in the you know in a short period of time so I'm just trying not to like get too riled up and I'm just trying to pace myself so I will say I'm feeling very very salmon.

Oh I like that. Why does it say pink grass it's salmon. I thought you were going to go for like a dusty pink but you switch it up on me last minute.

How's your heart?

My heart is good it's a calm because last week was stressful which we'll talk about later but been resting trying to give myself some grace in not needing to be as productive or moving as

much as I would any other time which is very hard to not allow guilt to infiltrate your thoughts when you're not being productive or thinking of how to be productive so I would say the colors like a light purple.

I feel like we in the same space Loki.

Yeah.

Like right like a variation of that color way you know I'm saying yes like that pinkish purple violet ish blend.

If we were it's recording right now I would ask you which I guess goes with the podcast if I can do anything to help you.

I think this podcast is a representation that you're doing things to help me really.

Yeah no I get the opportunity to talk to my friend in a vulnerable space and I think we get the opportunity together to like inspire possibly an ideal of thoughts or just you know the opportunity to you know have a connection with someone that you know like we all going through the same thing at the end of the day you know so yes.

So what's been going on right so let's get personal because apparently that's what we're doing on the podcast now.

So last week I had a health scare which you know about pretty surprising but we're here so we're good but I needed to see a few doctors to triple check I was good.

I needed to rest which is why again that like difficulty of allowing myself to not move has been happening but in between all those doctor appointments I think the health scare happened like Sunday night and on Monday I was going through going doctor to doctor and I was messaging my family and you and my partner just like updating everyone.

And I thought about just how we are there for one another right like how each of you all offered support and I think at this point at least in our friendship and then with my family I kind of know what type of comfort and support you're going to give.

Especially really enough especially more during difficult times I think about them more than good times but I think that's kind of what humans do right we kind of dwell on to all on the hard stuff and always appreciate how you're there for me but I feel like we've had to have a few combos throughout our friendship in order for us to know how to be there for one another and a lot of that combos extra centered around communicating how we can be there and also being very aware that that changes depending on.

The circumstance how have you experienced friends being there for you in good and bad times so it's so layered for one I'm like a person I like to struggle in peace I never like seeing people struck like see me struggle because they'll think it's like what I'm carrying in reality is something else is my leg you know I'm saying so instead of them asking they'll grab the bags like it's the bags that's heavy when it's my leg that hurts you know.

If that makes sense I'm being metaphorical so yeah so they're going based off of what they see not what necessarily they know or ask to know sometimes I like what you struggle with is internal only you can fill it you know and then I would say it's hard for me to like open up in that way because I there's been times where I felt like you know it get thrown in my face later someone being there for you or whatever you shared yeah whatever I share because a lot of time being there for me is just me communicating.

You know like being heard and feeling seen and being understood I think sometimes it's a lot of internal mental things for me so it's not like what you can do is really like how you can listen you know sometimes yeah sometimes I don't even need advice sometimes I just need to air sometimes I just need a hug but how does one know that if I'm not communicating so that's the thing that it's the hard part for me because I'm like I got to communicate how I.

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