Be tough. Don't cry about that. What are you? What are you crying about?

That's often how they feel to say that's how I was raised. When you when you try to do parenting

coaching, they'll be a whoosh. Don't be. And that's how I was raised. My dad talked to me and

look at me. And so maybe they're very effectively achievement oriented. So they're saying,

look, I'm so successful and I was raised this way. But what they don't realize is how closer they

in their intimate relationships and how closer they to their child because your child is feeling it.

You may not be now, but fortunately, if you're lucky, your child's still feeling your

criticism. Because if your child's no longer feeling your criticism, that's not a good sign.

And that's really what happens eventually, you just tune it out.

Welcome to Therapist Uncensored. Building on decades of professional experience,

this podcast tackles neurobiology, modern attachment, and more in an honest way that's

helpful in healing humans. Your session begins now with Dr. Anne Kelly and Sue Marriott.

Hey, Sue Marriott. I am happy to be back in the studio with you.

Absolutely. It's so nice to actually be recording together. We've been doing so many crazy things

separately. And yeah, it's fun. So let's do this. This is going to be an interesting episode.

You know, we've been talking a lot about different ways that we can tell when we're in our

like more defensive protective system and when we're in more our connective and open system,

right? And one of the things we've been thinking about is what are the things that you can tell

when you're in one and the other? And one of the big ones is self-criticism.

And self-criticism can be a huge problem for so many of us.

Oh, yeah. I mean, I would be surprised if there... Well, actually, there is a category when it comes

to attachment of folks who are less consciously self-critical. So we'll get to that.

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