Submission, Boundaries, Triggers and Trauma in Marriage [PART 2]
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 18 August 2025
⏱️ 78 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of Submission Part 2: Boundaries, Triggers & Traumas, we confront one of the greatest deceptions shaping marriages and families today.Our generation is obsessed with therapy trends, self-protection, and man-made fictions. We’ve traded God’s design for psychological language that soothes the flesh but never heals the spirit.👉 Full disclosure therapy leaves you suspicious instead of healed.👉 Generational “no-contact” preaches estrangement instead of honor.👉 Boundaries have become fortresses of fear instead of standards of righteousness.But here’s the truth:God did not design you with triggers.Boundaries without the Spirit are strongholds.Sons and daughters of God should not be governed by trauma, but moved by the Spirit.We are raising up a culture of believers discipled by psychology instead of transformed by Scripture—and it’s leaving homes out of order, marriages broken, and covenants without peace.In this episode we unpack:✅ Why boundaries are today’s language for strongholds✅ Why unclean spirits and fools are the only ones “triggered” in Scripture✅ How submission is about consecration, not control✅ How to stop studying your spouse’s sin and start walking in God’s peaceThis is a prophetic warning and encouragement: your boundaries are giving power to your spouse’s sin. But the blood of Jesus has the final word.📖 Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, James 3:18, Proverbs 3:5–6, Galatians 5:16, Philippians 4:6–9, 2 Corinthians 10:4–5
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| 0:00.0 | What is going on everybody? Derek and Jordan Pousa here back for another established family podcast. |
| 0:06.1 | This is going to be part two of the submission podcast. |
| 0:10.3 | So the last one that we recorded was on submission and domination inside of a marriage. |
| 0:14.9 | This is still submission, but through the lens of boundaries, triggers, and traumas. |
| 0:28.1 | So we recognize that when we are in podcast mode, that this is a consecrated moment, right? We aren't here just to pontificate about random things and manmade fictions and errors of our own heart. |
| 0:33.9 | We really spend some time diving into the word to not only make sure that we are biblically correct, but that we are honoring the heart. We really spend some time diving into the word to not only make sure that we are |
| 0:38.6 | biblically correct, but that we are honoring the heart of the father and what he wants to |
| 0:43.3 | speak over this community. So we hold the office of a teacher with high regard because we know |
| 0:50.8 | that anybody who desires to be a leader or a deacon desires a noble cause, |
| 0:56.8 | and they are held to a high standard. |
| 0:58.7 | So I want you to know whether you are returning or you are a new listener, that you aren't |
| 1:03.6 | here to listen to Derek and Jordan's revelation, but rather a reflection of the father's |
| 1:09.3 | heart concerning a topic or an area that he wants to heal |
| 1:12.5 | and redeem inside of your marriage and inside of your family. |
| 1:15.9 | So at the end of this session specifically, I'm going to give a prophetic warning and encouragement |
| 1:21.5 | over this area. |
| 1:23.2 | So if you are one who likes to leave with encouragement or leave with actionable wisdom, that's going to be |
| 1:29.1 | something you want to stick around for. But for this topic here, submission through the lens of |
| 1:35.1 | boundaries, triggers, and traumas, we have to really set a foundation, right? Because we're living |
| 1:40.6 | in a generation that is obsessed with therapy trends, with self-protection, |
| 1:47.3 | and with man-made fictions. |
| 1:49.1 | It is error running rampant in the heart of man. |
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