Reverse betrayal is the aspect of that I have a loyalty to my own children who I don't get

to see as much because of the parenting plan and in that time I'm actually connecting with

my stepchildren and I'm actually starting to like them and they're starting to actually

bond with me and so doing I actually feel like I'm betraying my own children.

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So we just spent a couple days with a couple unsung heroes. Yeah we did. I mean it's our son Austin and his wife Kendall and of course we're a little biased. We think they're heroes but they're unsung heroes because they adopted two kids that we were with a weekend.

Yeah and they started out fostering these kids and I don't think we always give credit to the foster parents, adoptive parents, step parents. All of these people are giving life to children.

I mean they're heroes because they step in and fill a role that they don't have to and I'm not kidding as I looked over at Holden and Ryder.

I mean they're too young to know but I thought their life is radically different because of these two heroes they're mom and dad who have taken their life.

And today we get to talk a little bit about blended families and people that step in to take care of people that they're a hero too.

And today we're going to listen to a portion of the FamilyLife blended podcast. Rondio was talking with Gil Stewart about step bothering and ministering to step dads which is always a great topic.

And by the way we have the blended family summit coming up October 12th we'll tell you later how you can sign up but you don't want to miss that because that's what that's all about.

And the event is also virtual this year which is great because you can attend anywhere.

So we've got Rondio with us today he's the director of our FamilyLife blended ministry as many of you know here at FamilyLife.

And we're going to listen to a conversation he had with Gil Stewart who's a step family educator coach and counselor.

Gil and his wife Brenda have authored a book and a curriculum called restored and remarried and they also have a video curriculum for step fathers called unsung hero.

And that's what we're going to be talking about today and even though this discussion is specifically about step dads it has a really broad application for all step parents and also parents as well.

Okay Gil let's shift and talk a little bit about some of the content you've got in this just give guys a bit of a preview.

So you got seven different main topic sessions the first one is you're not my dad.

Now many dads listening are going to go yeah I've heard that or maybe they haven't heard those words but they felt that from their subject what's going on and what do they do about it.

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