Stefanos Sifandos: Rewriting Your Own History With What You Learned Through Pain

Align Podcast

Aaron Alexander

Society & Culture, Philosophy

4.8 • 923 Ratings

🗓️ 16 March 2021

⏱️ 85 minutes

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What is the cure to pain? What are we supposed to do with the learnings we gain from going through painful experiences? What does holding space actually mean? What happens when we withhold our own truth? In this episode of the Align podcast, Stefano shares with us why and how he hit rock bottom, how he expressed his addictions to sex, alcohol, physical extenuation, materialism, status, and how someone living through a similar passage can find peace with their story. Plus, we explore the reality that most of us act according to what people feel is “normal” and expected by our society, which results in us feeling ashamed of expressing what we truly want and suppressing our own fantasies. Stefanos Sifandos is a relationship alchemist, international speaker, and author who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices to help evolve and enhance relationships. What we discuss: 06:03: Stefano’s 10 day fast in the wild 12:50: What does ‘holding space’ actually mean? 14:27: How to cultivate depth within ourselves in order to be of supportive of others 15:28: Stefano’s story of learning through pain 20:04: How does one acknowledge their own story in order to re-write it? 24:50: Are there any 'neuroses' that can't be healed by love? 28:34: Is it possible to re-parent ourselves? 29:30: What shame feels like to Stefano 35:55: How to come to peace with your own story 37:00: More about relationships 40:00: Thriving in familiarity Vs novelty 46:13: Masculine and feminine energy - how does polarity work? 51:33: How can we relate to each other effectively? 57:36: How a female embodies feminine elements to attract a masculine figure 1:04:49: Will society erupt? 1:05:39: Is equilibrium even sustainable? 1:10:31: Modern use of psychoactive substances to address trauma and wounds To learn more about Stefanos: Website: stefanossifandos.com Instagram: @stefanossifandos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome back to the Line Podcast. My name is Aaron Alexander. This is a place that we bring together
0:05.8	the world's leading experts in all things health and wellness to help you optimize your mind,
0:10.4	body, and movement. This conversation was with someone that I am proud and honored to call a good friend.
0:17.6	Stephanos Sifonos, he is a relationship coach, he is a men's coach and he is a tremendous human being.
0:25.9	He is the husband of Christine Hasler who had on just a couple weeks ago, so I was very
0:31.2	excited to get to share both their conversations kind of almost back to back and in this
0:36.0	conversation we get into a lot of different layers of who the heck we are as men or human beings representing masculine in the first place.
0:45.6	Just reading a little quote off of his website.
0:49.1	As men, we are often given a blueprint of the world, relationships, and life that is hyper-selfish, not conducive to the well-being of others,
0:57.6	and emotionally disconnected and void of feeling.
1:00.6	This conversation, we get into that, how do we feel safe enough in ourselves,
1:06.3	confident enough in ourselves whole enough to be able to express, sit with, comfortably, or uncomfortably but being comfortable with discomfort in all
1:17.0	the nooks and crannies however dark or light that we may be. I think that Stephanos acts as a really tremendous example
1:27.6	on how to really be a whole integrated masculine
1:35.9	would, would, would, or swinging kettle bells or spitting.
1:38.9	They can also look like crying, or look like feeling insecure or feeling vulnerable or feeling afraid
1:48.0	and by opening ourselves up to these parts that
1:52.0	sometimes we might have learned are shameful or if we do
1:56.1	express them then we'll push people away or we won't be accepted or anything of the sort.
2:03.1	What a mind fuck to be in that position
2:05.9	where there's a thing that we feel deeply
2:09.8	and we're afraid to express it
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