Spouses, It's Not Just Narcissism... It's Demonic
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 1 March 2025
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
Are You Labeling Your Spouse… Or Are They Spiritually Captured?
We are living in the times that 2 Timothy 4:3-4 warned us about—where people reject sound doctrine in favor of teachings that satisfy their itching ears. And right now, Satan is gaslighting marriages with false labels.
Many spouses believe they’re married to a narcissist, a Jezebel, or an Ahab—and while we won’t pretend these things don’t exist, we also won’t ignore the massive plague of deception surrounding these labels.
The truth? Most spouses aren’t married to a narcissist. They’re married to a spiritually captured individual—governed by the flesh, deceived by unclean spirits, and lacking the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of Christ.
And if you’ve been exhausted in your stand for marriage restoration, it’s not because you’re standing—it’s because you’re accusing. Demonic work is tiring. Satan is using your therapists, pastors, friends, and biased research to keep you in accusation instead of intercession.
In this episode, we expose the spiritual conditions behind destructive behavior in marriage
- Double-mindedness – Divided in heart, torn between flesh and spirit
- Hardened hearts – Spiritually blind, calloused, and resistant to truth
- Dull minds – Losing the ability to discern and understand
- Divided sight – Operating in deception rather than clarity
Using Scripture, spiritual wisdom, and years of marriage coaching, we break down why these conditions are fueling marital destruction—and why the solution isn’t a worldly label, but the power of God to deliver, disciple, and restore.
This episode will challenge you. But if you’re ready to stop using Satan’s blueprint and start walking in biblical restoration, healing, and breakthrough, listen now.
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| 0:00.0 | What is going on, everybody. Derek Pousa here with my wife, Jordan, and welcome back to another |
| 0:04.8 | episode of the Established Family Podcast. This is Season 2, Episode 4. In today's topic, I want there to be |
| 0:12.7 | a grace and a kindness that washes over every listener of this topic, whether you're listening |
| 0:17.9 | because you saw the title and maybe it intrigued you or |
| 0:22.1 | irked you a little bit. Maybe you're a teacher of some of these things. Maybe you have been |
| 0:27.3 | a benefactor or even collateral damage to some of these teachings. Our heart and desire is not to |
| 0:34.1 | cause disruption and confusion, but rather to complete the holistic truth and |
| 0:39.8 | scriptural foundation behind the things and the conditions needed to heal the sons and |
| 0:45.0 | daughters of Christ, especially those who are starting families, marriages, and are |
| 0:50.4 | reflecting the covenant of Christ. So that is our heart behind this message. And you'll hear us |
| 0:54.9 | address some things like pretty bluntly. That's coming from our confidence, right? We walk boldly |
| 0:59.9 | before the throne room of grace. We've had encounters with God, both individually and in this marriage. |
| 1:05.2 | And we counsel and help and coach hundreds of people and tens of thousands of more at large in the established |
| 1:11.8 | family. And we've seen God's healing and redeeming power concerning labeling and concerning |
| 1:17.8 | narcissistic and Jezebelic and Ahab-like spouses. And there's redemption on the other side of it. |
| 1:24.1 | I know this world will teach you that it's unredeemable. Once a narcissist, |
| 1:27.8 | always a narcissist, you know, once a cheater, always a cheater, once oppressed, always |
| 1:33.8 | oppressed. And that is not the gospel-filled message. That's not the gospel-filled marriage. So I want |
| 1:40.7 | to start with the scriptural foundation here. And this is going to be a little bit more of a back and forth with my wife and I as we |
| 1:48.1 | kind of navigate through this topic. |
| 1:49.8 | So I want you all to stay locked in for the promise throughout this entire message and |
| 1:54.8 | until the end. |
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