Slow and Steady Wins the Race, Except in a Real Race - Using the Power of Story, and Analogy for Good, Not for Manipulation!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 30 December 2020

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Using the power of story, or a colorful analogy can be an amazing way to help someone understand what YOU are going through. But often story and analogy are weaponized, leaving the listener not only NOT listening to the story, but exactly the opposite...looking for ways instead to debunk the story which only drives distance in what initially may have started out as a well-intentioned conversation. Tony mentioned his podcast episode last year where he tackled how to truly rock a New Year’s resolution, you can find that episode here https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-virtual-couch/id1275153998?i=1000461122683 and the Virtual Couch Cookie that Tony mentioned on today’s episode was crafted by the fine folks at http://thealchemybakehouse.com you can find them on Instagram @thealchemybakehouse -Sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!- This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. -Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ-Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!-Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.-Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBo-Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What?

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0:00.0	So not long ago, I had a client sitting in front of me and he was telling me about a time
0:05.6	where he was being interviewed by an ecclesiastical leader, a leader from his church.
0:10.0	And the leader is a good man.
0:11.4	I know him.
0:12.0	I like him.
0:12.7	I like him a lot.
0:13.4	And my client asked me if it was bad of him to feel some feelings, maybe some frustration
0:19.0	or annoyance when their leader continually told them that they
0:22.9	needed to slow down, kind of slow things down, that life wasn't a sprint. It was a marathon. And so
0:28.9	I appreciated the analogy, but I knew that this person was actually more of a sprinter in life,
0:35.2	so to speak, and that they're not wanting to train for a marathon
0:39.1	wasn't because they didn't want help or want to do all that they could do to help them
0:44.0	overcome the struggles and challenges that they were in that office to overcome. But some of us
0:49.0	are sprinters and some of us are marathon runners. And then there are those of us who find out
0:52.9	that we do better at even longer distances.
0:55.2	I remember my first 100-mile race.
0:57.6	I was prepared to fall apart so much so that I took it easy all day and all night.
1:02.8	I splashed around in creeks and streams.
1:05.5	I was told I would be overheated throughout the day.
1:08.1	I took extra time at aid stations and relish the moment because I was just
1:12.1	waiting for this time to fall apart. Well, when night hit, I think I passed over 50 to 60 runners,
1:20.1	as I still just kind of felt fine. I felt strong and I finished strong some 25 hours later,
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