It's the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.

Hello, my fellow suffering beings, how we doing?

Have you ever had that experience where you're kind of pissed at somebody, either because of something they did or did not do?

But you don't want to go through the hassle of bringing it up with them, so instead you do the super healthy thing of just sitting and stewing.

And then finally, after nurturing and watering the grudge for so long, that person makes one small mistake and you totally lose it.

And then, of course, you're the one who has to apologize.

Or what about this?

You've got somebody you value immensely, but you never tell them anything that would let them know that, and then

something happens where it's too late. If you've got any static with the people in your life,

if you feel like you're being taken for granted, if you feel like your needs aren't being

met, if you feel like the relationship's just gone stale, today we've got some pretty solid

strategies for you. My guest is Sister True Dedication.

She's a Zen Buddhist nun and teacher ordained by the great meditation teacher and author Tickna Han.

Sister True Dedication edited several of Tickna Han's books, including the Art of Living and Zen and the Art of Saving the Planet.

She was born in the UK, studied history and political

thought at Cambridge University, and worked for BBC News before ordaining as a nun 15 years ago

at the age of 27. Just to note that we originally ran this episode in 2022 and we're bringing it

back this week and dropping it right in the middle of the often emotionally fraught holiday season,

you will hear Sister True Dedication talk about six phrases or mantras that Ticknan Han recommended

that people use in order to make sure that their relationships stay on the rail.

She's going to walk us through what those phrases are and how to incorporate them into your daily life.

We also talk about keeping misunderstandings dust-free, taking action to make sure anger doesn't fester, the importance of recognizing that our understanding of the world is always partial, bringing these mantras that she's going to talk about into the workplace, using them in text messaging

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