I'm just going to come out and say it.

Contempt is an affront to God.

And unfortunately, contempt is all too common in marriages

that kind of get passed a certain point.

And what is contempt, really?

And I heard one definition that I'd found so convicting

and compelling and clear, and is that contempt is a mixture

between anger and disgust.

And so when we start to feel angry and disgusted

with our spouse, that is a big issue.

And in fact, the gotmins, who were very smart people,

call it one of the four horsemen of a relationship.

Meaning that's like the apocalypse of a relationship.

And so this whole episode is really dedicated to looking at,

where does this attitude of contempt come from?

Right, what is contempt?

What does it look like in our marriage?

And how can we start seeing those seeds and uprooting them?

Because it's so easy for us to have a thought

and just sweep it on the carpet.

I know a big deal.

But then when those thoughts start taking habit

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