All right, Bob, let's answer patron emails. What do you say? I say, let's answer those patron emails.

Listener Dallas, she writes in and says, I want to help my husband open up emotionally,

but I'm not sure how. I love my husband and we have a great relationship. He has a lot of trauma

from his childhood, but toxic masculinity won't let him express it. He assumes the worst out of people

and it has taken him a lot to see how much that I love him. I want to help him open up and express

what he's going through when he's having a hard time. By the way, I plan on having us watch the

mask we wear. I will update you after we watch it. So, end of email. The mask we wear is a really great

documentary about masculinity. They interview men of various different cultural pockets and

they dismantle masculinity and identify the toxic elements of masculinity pretty effectively.

Oh, right on. And I've prescribed it to clients to watch before. So, that's Dallas's responding

because I think I must have mentioned it and Dallas's mentioned. But anyway, Dallas's question is,

I want to help my husband open up emotionally. He has a lot of trauma, but toxic masculinity gets

in the way. What advice do you have to Dallas? Well, I always think of listening.

Listening is a really good way to help somebody feel safe to open up. And listening is not just sit

there silently stare at them. Listening is taking an interest in where they're at, including

I'm not being open. Like, what a fabulous thing to make room for. Like, yeah, I don't feel safe

to be open. And that's okay. As a listener, as a person on the other end of that, I can be

interested in okay. So, when I think about listening, I often think it's kind of like taking a

guided tour where you're on the tour and you're the guide is telling you, you don't interrupt the

guide and say, well, you know, the Mona Lisa blah, blah, blah, blah. You just listen to what the

tour guide tells you about the Mona Lisa. Or when you're in the river, you just go where the river

goes. You don't tell a river it ought to turn left when it's turning right. And you have that

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