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It's pretty typical to want to tell your son or a daughter that they're exceptional.

They stand out from other kids their age.

After all, they're the most special child in your life.

But if you're not careful careful you can put a lot of

pressure on your children to be the best at anything they try because mom or dad

expects it. I'm John Fuller along with Dr Danny Huerta who leads our parenting and youth

department here at Focus on the Family and we're going to turn to a conversation

Jim Daly and I had with authors Michael Anderson and Dr Timothy Johanson offering some helpful tips for correcting

your child's misbehavior.

Anytime you can count on somebody's behavior, you can use it to your advantage and we can count on our kids to be

self-serving so if it costs them to leave their bike on the yard they're going to

remember on their own and they're not going to leave it out the next night

which will take another reminder or another threat.

So I'm supposed to find my child like a buck if they leave their bike outside?

Is that what you're saying?

It might take that, but there's other ways to be creative about it. It just has to cost them something.

Give us some examples of that because I appreciate John's question there because I think again if you're living in the reminder parenting style or the threat parenting style.

Well take the example of the bike.

A 10-year-old doesn't put his bike away, it's sitting in the yard.

Put the bike up on hooks in the top of the garage and he can't reach it for a week and don't say a thing.

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