How your adult brain keeps you from healing.

It's wild how long you can go without realizing something was traumatic. One of the

biggest reasons we miss our trauma or minimize it even after we see it is because we're looking at it

through the eyes of our adult mind. The part that explains, softens, or rewrites the story to protect us,

but also keeps us from truly feeling and healing what happened. Let's break down the ways this shows up.

Before the realization, how the mind blocks awareness of childhood trauma, these are the ways

your adult mind protects you from realizing what really happened. You tell yourself it wasn't that

bad because it didn't look extreme. You define trauma by the event instead of the impact,

but trauma isn't about what happened.

It's about what your nervous system came to believe as a result of what happened.

You focus on what your parents did do instead of what you needed and didn't get.

They took care of my physical needs.

Your adult mind confuses empathy for your parents with permission to dismiss your pain.

You rationalize their behavior instead of dismiss your pain. You rationalize their

behavior instead of feeling your pain. They were under a lot of stress. They didn't know any better.

They did their best. These explanations protect your parents, but they disconnect you from your younger

self. You mislabel trauma responses as personality traits. You say you're just sensitive,

really independent, or bad with

conflict, not realizing that these were adaptations your younger self made to survive. In the healing

process, how the adult mind still gets in the way, even after you realize you have trauma,

your adult mind can keep blocking the deeper work. You try to figure it out instead of feel it. You read the books,

analyze patterns, and intellectualize your past, but still feel disconnected from the part of you that

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