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thought about it hard and realize that I liked him to have wanted to see if it could go somewhere. You both decided that it would be kept a secret until if slash when it became more serious.

We talked every night after that very very there I say somewhat sexual. I built up the nerve to ask him if you wanted to go on a date that Friday with me to see if we connected in person outside of work.

He agreed on a place in time since he had to work that morning in the next day, which was a Wednesday. I texted him that morning with a picture just saying, Hey, I heard nothing back. I brushed it off thinking he was just busy at work and couldn't respond. Then that Thursday, I heard nothing again Friday. I realized that I was ghosted. I had no idea why and I racked my brain on if I said something offensive during our conversations and came up with nothing the next week. At work.

He acted as if nothing had ever happened so naturally I did as well. I am still so incredibly confused as the why I was ghosted. So my question is, should I reach out to him to find out why or just let it go. I'm pretty confident that I will say he just isn't interested, but I really want to know what happened. Yet I don't want to look desperate either. Thank you. I was somebody else in the office. That's my chair. Go start dating the boss.

So they never went out. They had just planned it. Yeah. And then he just went and he ghosted up. Yeah, there's that could be. I mean, we could just speculate on a hundred different things. I mean, they talked every night. That was the thing. So they didn't go out and meet in person, but they had built up this like conversational relationship.

And I mean, gosh, I mean, I remember back in the day when you used to have those instant messages and you would sit there and go back and forth with somebody and really feel like you got to know them on an intimate level, even though you had never gone out in person.

So they built some kind of rapport with each other. So I can understand why she's more attached than just like the fact that they'd never even went out on one date.

It's weird that he hasn't approached her at all, like just to say something like, you know what? I was really excited about it. Then I thought about it. And it's really putting us both in danger at work. So, you know, I didn't choose the right decision. I just kind of ghosted rather than talking to you about it or say some.

I mean, they're in the office or passing each other. Like they don't know each other. And yet no one has answers.

And I'm thinking it must be something really awkward for him that he doesn't want to address or bring up. And I wish she would have said exactly what the picture is that she takes because it was a picture just to say, Hey, and it seems like from that point on, he just was didn't respond at all. And we're just not interested anymore.

So here I think I say this quite a bit when it comes to these things. Does it matter? I know you're curious, but does that matter? He's telling you everything you need to hear is like he's not super stoked about going out with you anymore.

So does he have a girlfriend? Is he married? Does he think that he's risking the job at the end of the day? Does it matter? Well, unfortunately for her, she wants to get answers. And she doesn't want to look desperate. And in this situation, I don't think there's a way to do that. Because if you go out your way to ask him. And he clearly is trying to show you that he's not interested.

You're going to look a bit desperate. So if I'm her, I'm just letting this one go unless you can't live with it. You know, then I said this yesterday to Romeo that limbo phase of always wondering and not taking any action at all to me is the worst. So here she is a speculating and thinking about it and making a bunch of assumptions. Or you got one or two options here. Let it go or talk to the dude. You got a much better chance of regaining his interest in completely ignoring him. I feel like more guys would go.

If you were like more guys would go for that than if you would constantly try to figure out what was going on. Final word, Kristen.

I mean, like I want to know too. And I just like reread this. What you're going to do. What you're going to do?

And I've just reread it. And it's irking me even more upon the second read. But you deserve better. Don't be desperate. Don't say anything. Screw the guy.

Yeah.

Who cares?

Who cares? Could be a million different reasons. That's not your problem. Move on.

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