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It's really easy as a parent to rattle off a list of rules to your kids, but as they get older, it's really important that they hear the heart behind those rules.

So in addition to saying, don't have sex before marriage we should

be sharing the why they should wait message with our kids offering that beautiful

vision that the Bible has for marriage and sexuality.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny Huerta.

He's a licensed clinical social worker and heads up our parenting department here at

Focus on the family and we're going to hear a conversation now that Jim

Daly and I had with Danny and also with Jesse Manassian as well and they talked

about helping boys handle sexual thoughts in a godly manner.

Danny, you introduce a concept called, you call it the Godly reset, particularly with

boys in that regard.

What were you driving at? In thoughts if I recall boys relate to

this because in video games especially I did this in high school I would I would press

reset when I was losing it's this idea that if your mind is really going the wrong direction, you got to figure out your

reset button. Press reset and then do it differently. Whenever I did those games, I would press

reset and then try a new strategy a different

strategy I wouldn't use the same decision-making in that game and so the same thing

is with my mind if I notice my mind going somewhere it doesn't mean that I'm a bad person it means I

need to press reset and and grab onto my thoughts because with boys I've talked to my

son over and over again about this is when you're tired when you're bored when

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