Sexualisation of Women with Big Boobs, Grooming and Pleasure After FGM in Nigeria with Lolo Cynthia

Doing It! with Hannah Witton

Hannah Witton

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 653 Ratings

🗓️ 30 March 2022

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Lolo Cynthia, a gender and sexuality activist and educator from Nigeria. Lolo discusses her own experiences of sexualization and grooming as a curvy woman with big breasts, the harmful stigma and myths in Nigeria around girls’ bodies and sexuality and how that makes them more at risk to predatory behaviour. Lolo shares how she is working to empower young people and girls especially to reconnect with their bodies, trust their intuition and let this guide how they engage with sex. Hannah and Lolo chat about how interconnected alcohol and dating are and why Lolo feels bringing alcohol into dating prevents you from understanding how connected you actually feel to someone. Lolo also shares anecdotes about the different kinds of questions girls versus boys ask in her sex education classes, why she’s not allowed to include LGBTQ+ themes in sex education but how she finds loop holes to teach students about understanding and accepting themselves. Finally, Lolo discusses how to talk about sexual pleasure that is more inclusive of people with vaginas who have been circumcised and how those in the sex positive world can be better allies to people who have experienced FGM.

CW: grooming, sexual assault, and female genital mutilation

✨MORE ABOUT LOLO CYNTHIA ✨
Lolo started her own social enterprise, LoloTalks, to increase comprehensive sexuality education across Nigeria, with a special focus on people in underserved communities such as brothels and prisons. She created a sexuality toolkit – MyBodyIsMine- to use in schools and uses her various platforms to speak about the importance of sex education. Lolo’s interest in sexual and reproductive health and rights was deepened when she moved to South Africa and saw how issues around sexuality, including access to legal and safe abortion, were treated differently than in her home country. Lolo strives to educate young men and women about sexuality, respect, and contraceptives. As a natural leader, with a passion to drive positive change, she joined Niyel - an impact-driven campaign agency to create campaigns that lead to positive change in Africa and beyond

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lolo_cy
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lolo_cy/?hl=en
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LoloTalksInc

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0:00.0	Hi everyone, welcome back to Doing It, the Sex and Relationships podcast where sex has never been so nerdy.
0:12.3	With me, your host, Hannah Witten.
0:14.5	This week, I'm joined by the brilliant Lolo Cynthia, a gender and sexuality activist and educator from Nigeria. Lolo started her own social
0:24.5	enterprise and YouTube channel Lolo Talks to increase comprehensive sexuality education across
0:30.0	Nigeria. She also created a sexuality toolkit, My Body is Mine, which she teaches in schools
0:35.9	and uses her various platforms to speak about the
0:38.6	importance of sex education. Lolo's interest in sexual and reproductive health and rights
0:43.3	was deepened when she moved to South Africa and saw how issues around sexuality, including
0:47.8	access to legal and safe abortion, were treated differently than in her home country.
0:53.2	Lolo is an incredibly important voice for sex education in West Africa, so I really wanted to get
0:58.3	her on the show to talk about her experiences of being a sex educator in Nigeria and learn more
1:03.6	about the topics at the forefront of her work.
1:06.4	Our conversation was so eye-opening and fascinating.
1:09.3	We talked about Lolo's experiences of sexualization
1:12.3	and grooming as a curvy young woman with big breasts, the harmful stigma and myths in Nigeria
1:17.8	about girls' bodies and sexuality, and how that makes them more at risk to predatory behavior.
1:24.0	Lolo shared how she is working to empower young people and girls especially to reconnect with their bodies, trust their intuition and let this guide how they engage with sex.
1:33.3	We also had a really interesting chat about how interconnected alcohol and dating are and why Lolo feels bringing alcohol into dating prevents you from understanding how connected you actually feel to someone.
1:45.5	Lolo also shared some really interesting anecdotes about the different kinds of questions
1:50.6	girls and boys would ask in her sex education classes and why she's not allowed to include
1:56.2	LGBTQ plus themes in sex education, but how she finds loopholes to teach students about understanding
2:03.4	and accepting themselves. Lolo also shared some incredibly important insights into how to talk
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